Sinopsis
In this modern dating podcast, Jordana Abraham of Betches and Jared Freid discuss their take on modern dating issues ranging from apps to hook ups to relationships. What makes something a red flag versus a dealbreaker in the world we currently live in. They're here to help you not die alone.
Episodios
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What’s The Right Texting Ratio?
03/08/2022 Duración: 01h02minJared and Jordana start this week’s episode with a French lesson for Jared and a discussion about “going out woman” vs. “going home woman.” The first emailer asks how often she should be initiating text conversations with guys she’s dating. Is 60% of the time too much or is she just overthinking all of this? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is almost sacrilegious. Later, a hotline caller asks how to non-awkwardly break out the lube during sex with a new partner. Do guys care about this? They finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about condom disposal, posing nude, and profile photo faux pas. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Can Height Be A Deal Breaker? Ft. Patti Stanger
31/07/2022 Duración: 48minOn this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana are joined by Patti Stanger (AKA the Millionaire Matchmaker). They start out with a conversation about what has changed about dating over the course of Patti’s career and being “dickmatized.” Later, they answer an email from a listener who’s having a hard time being attracted to her boyfriend because of his height. Should she try to overcome her own insecurity of feeling “huge” next to him? Or is feeling this way a deal breaker? Jared, Jordana, and Patti all share wisdom from their mothers and reveal their own superficial deal breakers. Plus, Patti takes a turn solving dating for Jared. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Can I Ask My BF To Clean Out His Following List?
27/07/2022 Duración: 01h14minOn this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a conversation about Jared’s TedTalk (which we *think* is available now) and how going on vacation can turn you into a monster. The first emailer writes in to ask how to deal with her fiancé continuing to follow women from before their relationship. She says she trusts him, so is her “ick” valid? How much can she negotiate his following count? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves an unfortunate bathroom break. Later, a listener emails in about her pattern of getting cold feet in long term relationships. Is she wasting their time or is this a normal part of dating? J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about white lies, well done steak, and gifts from exes. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Do Men Avoid Hookups To Avoid Blame?
24/07/2022 Duración: 24minJ&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re answering an email from a listener who’s been playing DM tag with the same guy for 5 years. Now they’re finally living in the same place, but they’ve only managed to get together twice, both with no kiss. Did they miss their dating window? Or is he just more interested in making friends in his new city? Plus, they discuss the person you go on one date a year with because you don’t trust your former self. J&J finish the episode with a new rap jingle. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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It’s Not You, It’s Your Explore Page
20/07/2022 Duración: 01h09minOn this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a reveal of the destination for Jared’s upcoming solo vacay. The first emailer asks about the difference between cute and hot. Is she wrong for being annoyed that she gets called cute on the dating apps as a 34-year-old woman? Jared explains the difference between various physical compliments from a guy’s perspective. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a missing press-on nail. Later, a listener asks how to stop obsessing over an engagement ring when she knows she won’t be getting engaged for at least a year. J&J explain how social media plays a role here. They finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about promotional pens, sleeping habits, and dating app photos. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Are Men Really Intimidated By Me?
17/07/2022 Duración: 33minJared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they start with a midsummer pep talk for all the singles. This week’s emailer writes in about a trend of guys claiming they were intimidated by her on the first date. Is she coming off too confident for these guys' egos? Or does it have something to do with her sexuality? Plus, they discuss how men actually behave when they’re intimidated. J&J finish the episode with a listener-submitted jingle all the way from Hawaii. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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What Do Men Actually Mean When They Say They’re Not Ready?
13/07/2022 Duración: 01h31minOn this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a recap of their 4th of July weekends, including Jared’s thoughts on being the single guy of his friend group and his mom’s reaction to an upcoming solo trip. Then, Jared reads some of his recent Hinge interactions, and they discuss the spectrum of cheesy to jaded daters in New York. The first emailer asks when she should tell guys she’s dating about a random friend makeout after finding out that her friend tells women about it on the third date. Was the kiss more meaningful than either of them are letting on? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is an accidental AirPlay. Later, a listener asks if it’s possible to be too in control in her dating life. Looking back on her last relationship, she realized that she was the one initiating all of their next steps. Did she miss a red flag that he wasn’t bringing up these conversations? What do men actually mean when they say they’re not ready for a relationship? J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal
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How Is He Not Thinking About The Future?
10/07/2022 Duración: 34minJ&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they start with a discussion about couples' trips at different stages of a relationship. This week’s emailer writes in for help deciding if she should move forward in her relationship even if her boyfriend isn’t as passionate as she would like. Is she just seeking the drama she had with her exes? How can she get an answer out of him about their future plans? Plus, J&J listen to a listener-submitted jingle to finish the episode. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Does The “Crazy/Hot Scale” Still Hold Up?
06/07/2022 Duración: 01h21minOn this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana are back in the studio talking about the art of eye foreplay and meeting new people when you go out alone. The first emailer asks about the infamous Hot/Crazy scale created by Barney on “How I Met Your Mother.” Are men really attracted to “crazy” women? And does the graph work if the genders are flipped? The Awkward Sexual Encounter includes a surprise visit from a landlord. The next email is from a listener wondering if she’s the assh*le for being turned off by guys who go to therapy. Does being in therapy mean they’re not ready to date? Are they bringing it up to be vulnerable or because they saw a TikTok saying that women want to date guys who go to therapy? Later, J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about messy cars, dating profile updates, and gift shopping. Link to the How I Met Your Mother video from today's email: HIMYM Crazy/Hot Scale Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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“Better Than Nothing” Relationships Are Actually Worse Than Nothing
03/07/2022 Duración: 24minJ&J are back with another Sunday Special just in time to solve all your 4th of July dating worries, and this week they start out with a chat about single vs relationship holidays. The emailer writes in about a guy she’s been seeing casually for a few months. When she tried to address their slow momentum and mixed signals, he explained that he saw her more as a friend and he’d like to keep it that way. Should you “stay friends” with someone you only know in a romantic context? J&J give her some tough love and translate exactly what he means by “I like you as a friend.” Plus, they talk about how to approach dating when you’re feeling extra lonely and listen to a listener’s jingle. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Is It Inflation Or Is He Just Not That Into Me?
29/06/2022 Duración: 01h08minOn this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a recap of our Boston show and a discussion about what counts as a “failure” in dating. Jared reads some texts and Jordana does a Deal Reveal to decide if he’s being too judgmental over TSA preferences. The first emailer asks what a low-cost first date means. Is he not into you if he just asks you out for coffee or a walk? Or is inflation just hitting everyone hard right now? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is another tale of missing panties. Later, an emailer asks how to get over the ick in a relationship. How can she kindly get her girlfriend to stop using baby talk? Is baby talk actually the problem here? Finally, J&J play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about manipulative behavior, video texting, and post-sex peanuts. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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How To Spot A Guy Who’s Just Telling You What You Want To Hear
26/06/2022 Duración: 24minJ&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week the emailer asks if she’s being too chill in dating. They start out with a conversation about how “chill” is perceived by men and women and what the right level of chill is. The listener submits screenshots where a guy she went on one date with slides into her DMs to ask her out again, explaining that he didn’t think she was interested initially. Is she playing things too cool and not showing enough interest? Or is he just saying what she wants to hear? Plus, they talk about how to spot guys who give convenient answers. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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How To Block Someone In An Empowering Way
22/06/2022 Duración: 01h17minOn this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a follow up discussion about why a guy might not want to date someone with a TikTok following and an update on Jared’s feelings about being single. The first emailer writes in about how she and her boyfriend are doing great except for one thing: he’s never said “I love you.” Do actions really speak louder than words? Is it a bad idea to get engaged without him saying those 3 words first? The Awkward Sexual Encounter feels like an episode of Below Deck. Later, a hotline caller asks what guys think when you block them. J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about holding hands, post-sex hygiene, backpacks. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Should You Pre-Qualify Your First Dates?
19/06/2022 Duración: 41minIt’s Faux Pas Sunday on the pod, and Jared and Jordana are starting out with a U Up-Date from the infamous Poof from our episode on 5/22. The emailer writes in asking how to deal with guys who quickly set the expectation that they’re just looking for a hookup. How much should she go with the flow? Is she too worried about wasting her time? Plus, they give the listener some mirror mantras to repeat for her next date. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Can You Wait TOO Long To Have Sex?
15/06/2022 Duración: 01h27minOn this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a talk about the official vocal coach of the U Up? Podcast, a proposal at one of Jared’s recent shows, and why you should listen to the pod with your S.O. The first email comes from a male listener who isn’t sure if the girl he’s dating is attracted to him because they’ve been on many dates, but they haven’t gotten physical yet. What happens if they aren’t sexually compatible after all this lead up? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a real eye-opener. Later, an emailer asks if her idea to hand out flirty business cards is dumb or genius. Will she come off as confident or desperate? J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about elevators, name mix ups, and restaurant tips. Thanks again to our presenting sponsor, Faux Pas! Get ready for the event of the summer. Purchase your tickets for the U Up? Live Tour by visiting betches.co/uuplive Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Should I Call Out A Vibe Shift In My Relationship?
12/06/2022 Duración: 31minJ&J are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they start things off with a conversation about Flo-Rida and all things Australia. The email is a deal reveal from a guy who tried to get vulnerable after feeling a shift in the relationship with a girl he’s been seeing for a couple of months. Did he blow it by bringing it up or was the relationship already doomed? Plus, they talk about how important someone’s response to vulnerability is. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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What’s More Important, Chemistry Or Connection?
08/06/2022 Duración: 01h26minOn this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start with a conversation about post-MDW energy in New York and bad bar behavior. The first emailer asks whether chemistry or connection is more important in dating. How much can you really tell from a first kiss? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is a warning for any laser hair removal enthusiasts. Later, a listener writes in about her boyfriend’s unenthusiastic reaction to her new work opportunities. Does he really want a partner who’s home all the time or is he jealous of her success? J&J finish the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, presented by Faux Pas canned cocktails, all about disappearing dates, unsolicited advice, and going barefoot in the airport. Thanks again to our presenting sponsor, Faux Pas! Get ready for the event of the summer. Purchase your tickets for the U Up? Live Tour by visiting betches.co/uuplive Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Vague Questions Get Vague Answers
05/06/2022 Duración: 31minJordana and Jared are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they start out with a listener jingle and a conversation about the impact of American Idol. The emailer submits screenshots from a guy she’s been on one date a year with since 2020. Should she believe him when he says they’re on the same page now after he ignored her initial reveal? J&J give their takes on what she could have done differently and how social media plays a role here. Plus, they discuss birthday dinners and hook up regrets. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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How To Do A Mini Reveal
01/06/2022 Duración: 01h16minOn this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start out with a recap of Jared’s time at a chili cookoff and the correct pronunciation of Nevada. The first emailer writes in after a guy she went on five dates with seemed spooked after she pointed out that it was, in fact, their fifth date. Are fifth dates really that big of a deal? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a missing pair of underwear. Later, a listener asks if she should give her boyfriend a vacation hall pass. Will they regret not having more sexual experiences before they settle down? Finally, J&J play a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker about ball scratching, happy hour, and elaborate jokes. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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How Should I Interpret Confusing Communication From My Ex?
29/05/2022 Duración: 24minOn this week’s Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana are shedding light on some cringey post-breakup behavior. A listener writes in about how her ex-boyfriend broke up with her and then came back into her life with a bottle of expensive shampoo. Now they’re broken up again, and she received a note from him addressed to her dog along with a box of dog toys. Jared reads the note in his best dog owner voice, and they try to understand what his goal is here. Plus, they discuss the right way to get back together. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices