Sinopsis
In this modern dating podcast, Jordana Abraham of Betches and Jared Freid discuss their take on modern dating issues ranging from apps to hook ups to relationships. What makes something a red flag versus a dealbreaker in the world we currently live in. They're here to help you not die alone.
Episodios
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Does 'The Materialists' Hate Matchmakers?
01/08/2025 Duración: 01h07minJared and Jordana are back with another movie review episode of The Materialists, directed by Celine Song and starring Dakota Johnson, Chris Evans, and Pedro Pascal. Spoiler alert!! J&J break down the film’s portrayal of matchmaking as cold and transactional, and ask whether Song set out to take down the matchmaking industry altogether. From red flag roommate situations to Coke-and-beer drink orders, J&J debate every messy decision and chaotic romance. Is it a rom-com, a satire, or something much darker? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Is It Okay to Date Your Brother’s Best Friend?
30/07/2025 Duración: 01h10minJordana shares her firsthand experience at a concert when she witnessed the viral moment Mr. Met fell off stage at Citi Field, breaking it down with Jared as pure comedy gold. Jared and Jordana read a listener’s email about a guy’s shy hopscotch move on a first date and debate when quirky crosses into “icky.” They dive into a friendship dilemma about hooking up with a best friend’s college fling years later, exploring honesty and boundaries. Plus, Jared calls out the major red flag of guys asking for selfies before the first date: “If a woman asks me for pictures, I’m opting out.” This episode covers hilarious fails, dating deal breakers, and navigating complicated friendships! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Too Soon to Reveal Feelings?
25/07/2025 Duración: 31minDating in your 40s? Jared and Jordana break down why it actually gives you the upper hand, less game-playing, more clarity, and faster exits from the wrong situations. A listener writes in about a promising new connection and a big reveal, prompting a convo on knowing what you want as you get older. Then, they react to a jaw-dropping first-date horror story involving a drunk, naked sleepwalker and a ruined mattress. The debate continues: is peeing the bed a dating red flag... or just a funny story? Modern dating, relationship boundaries, and chaotic hookups, this episode has it all! full ep here
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Is Going Out Alone a Red Flag?
23/07/2025 Duración: 01h22minWould you go to a concert solo? In this episode of U Up?, Jared and Jordana play “Would You Go Alone?” and debate when flying solo feels empowering versus just sad. They break down the “casual clock” - the timeline guys follow to keep things casual while still reaping relationship benefits. Then, a listener's email sparks a debate: is groaning at helping an elderly woman a red flag or just bad timing? They also run through a list of mama’s boy behaviors, from outfit picks to dentist appointments, and ask: is it icky or just picky? If you’ve ever wondered why he keeps coming back without committing, or how much mom-involvement is too much, this episode has answers! Watch full ep here
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How Long Is Too Long to Be Single? ft. Gals on the Go
18/07/2025 Duración: 44minIn this episode, Jordana and Jared welcome Brooke Miccio and Danielle Carolan, co-hosts of the popular Gals on the Go podcast. They dive into their journey as college influencers and how social media shapes modern dating and relationships, especially across Gen Z and Millennial cultures. Brooke and Danielle open up about living with their boyfriends, relationship boundaries, and how to navigate shared spaces without losing your mind! Jared reacts to Brooke’s viral TikTok claiming she’s been “single since birth,” questioning if that’s a real thing, sparking a fun debate about dating timelines and how men and women perceive time differently. Full episode here
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He Calls His Mom Every Night?!
16/07/2025 Duración: 01h16minIn this episode, J&J debate whether FaceTiming your mom every night on a romantic weekend is sweet or a total ick. A listener writes in about her boyfriend buying Sydney Sweeney's bath water soap, and the hosts weigh in on whether that’s quirky or cringe. They dig into whether dating an anonymous internet troll is ever okay (spoiler: nope). Jordana’s pool is open, so they break down the unspoken rules of hosting outside vs. inside in the summer. Plus, someone in an ENM (ethically non-monogamous) relationship gets ghosted before the first date, and Jared reminds us that nothing counts until you’re actually face-to-face. Watch episode here
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Who Really Deserves an Apology After a Breakup? ft. Atsuko Okatsuka
11/07/2025 Duración: 49minComedian Atsuko Okatsuka joins J&J this week for a hilarious and heartfelt deep dive into dating, breakups, and family drama. They kick things off with a wild listener email about a broken engagement, and whether you owe the entire ex-family an apology. Atsuko shares the story of a third date turned trauma bond after her now-husband paused foreplay to sing to his mom on the phone. The trio explores how vulnerability, cultural differences, and mental health shape our relationships. They also unpack a front-row breakup at Atsuko’s comedy show and debate whether the full moon really messes with your mood (and your mom). It all wraps up with a petty game of “Apology or Nah?” that exposes just how messy post-breakup etiquette can be. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Can Weight Gain Change Your Relationship?
09/07/2025 Duración: 01h23minIn this episode of U Up? , hosts Jordana Abraham and Jared Fried unpack the toughest parts of dating, from breakups and body image struggles to spotting red flags versus deal breakers. They dive into an eye-opening conversation about Hinge’s new note feature, sharing expert tips on writing playful, effective messages that keep the vibe light while weeding out the wrong matches. Plus, they discuss real listener dilemmas including “Is multiple cat Instagrams a deal breaker?” and how to handle forgetfulness on dates. Whether you’re navigating relationship closure or crafting your dating profile, this episode delivers honest, funny, and relatable advice. Perfect for singles eager to improve their dating strategy and avoid common pitfalls in today’s dating apps. Tune in for candid insights and laughter-filled stories that will change the way you date! Watch full ep here
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Are You Settling or Leveling Up?
04/07/2025 Duración: 52minThis week’s Friday Feels episode gets deep and personal with special guest Case Kenny, author, mindfulness expert, and the man behind the viral quotes shared by Oprah, SZA, and Selena Gomez. Jordana and Jared sit down with Case to talk about his new book The Opposite of Settling and explore why the best relationships amplify who you already are. They dig into what it means to have “out of town confidence,” how optimism and trust shape our dating lives, and why independence is the real secret to intimacy. Then, it’s time for Settling or Settling Up? where J&J get Case’s take on real listener scenarios, from stingy tippers to partners who still text their ex. Can love survive political differences or a forgotten birthday? Case shares why playfulness, clarity, and self-worth matter more than a perfect love story. This episode will shift how you think about dating and maybe even yourself! Watch episode here
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Banned From Hinge for Ending It After Date 3
02/07/2025 Duración: 01h20minJared and Jordana are kicking off the summer with a sizzling episode of U Up?, just in time for Fourth of July weekend, aka the perfect holiday to meet someone new. They dive into the difference between “main street” and “back alley” dates, and why your best romantic opportunities might be hiding in plain sight at a rooftop BBQ. A listener writes in after being kicked off Hinge by a jealous date who reported her when she didn’t want to keep seeing him after date three which brings on the game “Hinge Court,” where J&J rule on the internet’s biggest dating crimes. Plus, a heated email sparks debate: is a twin bed a red flag or just a red herring? And finally, a former sugar daddy confesses his past would you swipe right on that? This episode is packed with hot takes, dating wisdom, and enough corn-on-the-cob discourse to carry you through your next barbecue. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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The Rom-Com That Could Never Be Made Today
27/06/2025 Duración: 49minIn this Friday Feels episode of U Up?, Jordana and Jared dive into the chaotic brilliance of the 90s rom-com My Best Friend’s Wedding. They unpack the iconic “Say a Little Prayer” scene and ask why George isn’t the real lead?! George is loyal, hilarious, and flies to Chicago twice with zero expectations. Jared jokes he’d do the same for Jordana! The two debate who the true villain is: manipulative Julianne or emotionally unavailable Michael. They also question why everyone in the movie is kissing on the lips, including Kimberly and her dad. Through it all, they explore how the film’s dated relationship norms still spark modern-day debates about friendship, insecurity, and love, especially through the performances of Julia Roberts, Dermot Mulroney, Cameron Diaz, and Rupert Everett. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Is LinkedIn the New Dating App?
25/06/2025 Duración: 01h22minThis week on U Up? Jordana recounts a chaotic suburban showdown between her dog Ron and a rogue bird, complete with screaming, bird smacking, and an emergency vomit, an instant Jersey Shore Sammi Sweetheart moment. Then, J&J dive into listener emails starting with a baffling date: is four bathroom breaks in three hours a red flag or just…hydration? They weigh in on whether an ex checking your LinkedIn weekly for months is creepy or kind of romantic ("The sad version of The Notebook"). Plus, a listener wonders if post-sex texting equals intimacy. Jordana breaks down why good texting isn’t the same as making real plans. From social media stalking to suburban dog drama, this episode delivers laughs, real talk, and dating advice you didn’t know you needed. Watch full ep
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Do You Really Need Instagram to Date?
20/06/2025 Duración: 44minIt’s summer and Jordana’s pool dreams are on pause thanks to Long Island’s signature pace: dial-up internet speed! She and Jared unpack the clash between millennial efficiency and suburban business hours. Then, it’s a deep dive into modern dating quirks: should you cone or cup it on an ice cream date (and what does it say about you)? Plus, a howling ritual sparks a debate, red flag or just a full moon vibe? They also weigh in on whether a social media presence is a dating necessity or just mental clutter. From wolf howls to Insta reboots, it’s a perfect storm of pool drama, personal growth, and pizza-fueled revelations! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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How to Nail the First Date Look
18/06/2025 Duración: 01h23minIn this episode of U Up?, Jordana and Jared get cozy (Jordana’s new super soft tomato-knit top yes plz) and tackle the fine line between a compliment and a fashion read. “Comfortable” isn’t always a compliment! From decoding the art of dressing for a first date (hint: you only need one killer outfit) to unpacking the emotional baggage of co-parenting and overly close ex-relationships, they cover it all. Listener dilemmas spark juicy discussions about red flags, cringey sexual phrasing, and what it really means when your date goes through your purse. It’s a full rundown of fashion, feelings, and the fine print of modern dating. Tune in for real talk, relationship strategy, and a healthy dose of laughter! Check it out on YT too!
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Hinge Warned Me She Was a Scammer!
13/06/2025 Duración: 40minThis week’s Friday Feels kicks off with Jared reading a wild email straight from Hinge warning him that he may have matched with a scammer, which shocks Jordana but begs the question, did she have big boobs? From there, J&J spiral into a hilarious breakdown of dating app red flags and how scams somehow still get the swipe! Jordana defends her claim that eating tuna on a plane isn’t a crime, a lot of people love tuna! Then it’s time for some truly petty (or prudent?) listener emails, including one woman who stayed rent-free in her ex’s house and pulled off a stealth open house heist. Another listener hooked up with her downstairs neighbor and is now dodging plans, clingy texts, and sunburn lotion requests! Tune in on YouTube too!
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Speed Dating Tips You Need to Know for a Second Date!
11/06/2025 Duración: 01h34minJared’s back from his first official week in Delray Beach, and Jordana wastes no time roasting his full Florida transformation complete with Joe Dirt vibes and surprise gifts for the crew (check out on YT!) In this ep, J&J weigh in on a Couples Court case where a boyfriend suggests his girlfriend ditch the hair dye to cut costs, sparking a convo about appearance, control, and whether your partner gets a say. Then, they dive into the age-old question: are women funny? A listener’s date doesn’t laugh at her (objectively great) jokes but loves Joe Rogan, and the hot takes start flying. Another emailer preps for a speed dating event and asks how to talk about her dating history without killing the vibe. And finally, it’s a Red Flag or Deal Breaker that involves a 3D anime boob mousepad and a very confused boyfriend! Tune in for a hilarious show and hot takes! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Tired of the Apps? Try This Summer Challenge
06/06/2025 Duración: 26minSummer is here as Jared shares his 4-step plan to beat dating app burnout, including why taking yourself out to dinner alone might be the reset you need! Then, J&J dive into a wild “Petty or Prudent?” email from a listener who exposed her cheating ex in a Facebook group, was it justified or just messy? They unpack the fine line between closure and revenge. Later, a married listener asks how to be a better wingwoman for her single sister without overselling or making things awkward. From dating drama to sisterly love, this episode is packed with laughs, real advice, and plenty of hot takes for summer! Watch full ep here
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His Mom Helped Him Break Up!
04/06/2025 Duración: 01h18minJared and Jordana unpack the emotional rollercoaster of casual dating with a 30-year-old man who swears he’s not looking for anything serious, but still plans elaborate dates that scream boyfriend energy. They ask: is it really casual if it feels that intentional? Then things get hilariously weird with a naked farmer, some questionable yoga rules, and a date who’s just trying to process it all. Plus, the hosts share the texting abbreviations that give them the instant ick—WYA, prolly, and NMU—and debate what your texts reveal about your dating potential. In Red Flag or Dealbreaker, they dissect a mistaken identity double date, a pasta-at-brunch breakup, and a guy using AI to scale his love life like a startup. With summer vibes, emotional honesty, and plenty of laughs, this episode is a must-listen for anyone navigating modern dating chaos! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
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Where Are All the Eligible Men?
30/05/2025 Duración: 34minFrom the scarcity of eligible men to the rise of sober dating, J&J explore in this Friday Feels ep how gender dynamics and societal shifts are reshaping the current dating landscape! The hosts unpack why ambitious women feel like they're settling and why men seem overwhelmed by options. Listener emails spark juicy debates, like whether it’s a red flag to bring your own Crystal Light to a date, and if saying “I love you” for the first time during sex means anything. With honest insights and hilarious moments J&J give their unfiltered takes!
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Divorce Drama: Should the Side Piece Pay?
28/05/2025 Duración: 01h16minJ&J discuss scheduling conflicts and vet visit blunder to confessions of infidelity and the emotional fallout that follows! They read listener emails that unpack cheating dilemmas, post-divorce pettiness, and the struggles of physical incompatibility in otherwise perfect relationships. With signature humor and honesty, the hosts explore red flags, dealbreakers, and the importance of communication in both romantic and platonic relationships. From the aftermath of a wine spill to the complexities of being the only woman at a bachelor party, no dating dilemma is off-limits. Tune in for relationship advice that’s equal parts therapy session and group chat energy, always with a comedic twist! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices