U Up?

The J’s return from the holidays and start the show with reactions to the messages about Jordana’s personal story from last week’s episode. Next, an emailer asks if it’s weird to have a pre-date phone call with someone before meeting up for the first time. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a kitchen hookup and jalapeño peppers. Another listener writes in to ask how you should react if you find out the person you are dating cheated on their ex. Should you call them out or is it none of your business? Then, an emailer asks if it’s possible to successfully live with a messy person if you’re a clean freak. They close the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker which leads into a conversation about guys who only pee sitting down. Thanks to our sponsors! Fabletics: Go to Fabletics.com/uup and get 2 leggings for only $24 (a $99 value) when you sign up for a VIP Stitchfix: Get started today at Stitchfix.com/uup and get an extra 25% off when you keep everything in your box Buffy: For $20 off your Buffy bed

Happy New Year from double J! They start by breaking down their New Year’s resolutions and the importance of resolutions as they apply to dating. Then a listener writes in wondering if it’s necessary to follow your significant other on Instagram. Next, they dive into their Awkward Sexual Encounter which features a blow job, a locked jaw, and dinosaur chicken nuggets. Later a listener writes in wondering how to get guys that she is no longer interested in to stop texting her. Finally, a listener writes in wondering what to do when her bf won’t recommend her for a job in the same professional field. They wrap up the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker.  Fill out the U Up? survey to help us make the show the best it can be! Just go to: https://betches.co/uuppodsurvey Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Ho Ho Ho, happy holidays from J and J. On this joyous Christmas Day Jared and Jordana begin the show by breaking down the most depressing relationship movie of the year, “Marriage Story”. Next, they dive into their Awkward Sexual Encounter which features a goat cheese salad, a rumbly tummy, and some anal penetration. Then a listener writes in wondering if it’s unusual for her bf to be masturbating to pictures of a high school acquaintance. Later a listener writes in wondering if a sexual conversation after a first date means the guy she went out with is worth seeing again. Finally, they close the show out with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker. Fill out the U Up? survey to help us make the show the best it can be! Just go to: https://betches.co/uuppodsurvey Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J & J are back and start the show with a DM from a listener who initiated a first date and then asked to split the bill. Is that reason enough to skip a second date altogether? Next, an emailer asks if he needs to start posting pictures of the girls he dates on his Instagram. How important is it to show off the person you’re dating on social media? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a jealous cat and a mess at the foot of the bed. Another listener writes in with a story about her boyfriend reactivating his dating app account while she was out of town. Jared and Jordana reenact their text exchange and give advice for breaking things off. Then they read an email from a woman who bought her own house and is worried it will scare guys off. Is it possible for men to be intimidated if your home is too extravagant? They finish out the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breakers and a conversation about dating someone with a totally different sleep schedule.  Fill out the U Up? survey to help us make the show the bes

J and J take the show on the road for a very special episode recorded live at The Lincoln Theatre in Washington, DC. They begin the show by answering a listener submitted question asking when the right time would be to unfollow someone you casually dated. At 17:20 they conduct a dating app profile makeover for a lucky audience member. At 30:30 they invite another guest on stage to do a deal reveal featuring a weird string of texts. At 45:40 they play a revealing round of Red Flag Or Deal Breaker. At 58:00 the Awkward Sexual Encounter involves oral sex and an unquenchable appetite.  Thanks again to our presenting sponsor, Moxy Hotels! Find out more at: http://moxy-hotels.marriott.com/ Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The J’s are back in the studio and start the show with a conversation about 90 Day Fiancé and what the show says about setting expectations in your relationship. Is it fair to change your expectations of your partner after being together for a long time? Next, a listener writes in asking how to correct someone’s technique in bed without being offensive. They offer up options for saying the right thing. This week’s Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a girl in a hot tub and a booty call. Another listener sends an email after she saw the awful gifts her boyfriend ordered for her birthday. Is he really trying his best or should she ‘accidentally’ cancel the order? They read another email from a girl who’s hooking up with an influencer and asks how to engage with someone who thinks they are famous just because they have a blue check mark. Finally, they close out the episode with some Would You Rather questions and a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker.  The U Up? LIVE TOUR, presented by Moxy Hotels, is coming to a ci

Jared and Jordana are back to talk about gender roles, how they’re changing, and what they mean for your relationship. They start with an email from a listener who got broken up with because he cried in front of his girlfriend. The Awkward Sexual Encounter is all about a guy who stopped a hookup mid-makeout to admit that he farted. They give their best advice on how and when to fart in front of your partner. Next, they read an email from a listener who blacked out on a sixth date and is worried she may have ruined things. Are drunk antics always a turnoff? Another listener writes in the day after her breakup, wondering when it’s acceptable to get back out there and if dating too soon will scare guys off. Then they close out the show with some Would You Rather questions and a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker. The U Up? LIVE TOUR, presented by Moxy Hotels, is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adch

J and J head to Boston for a very special episode recorded live at The Wilbur Theater. At 8:00 they kick things off by answering a listener submitted email. Then, at 16:30 they conduct a dating app profile makeover and deal reveal for a lucky audience member. At 30:20 they invite another guest on stage for a dating profile makeover. At 47:30 they play a revealing round of Red Flag Or Deal Breaker. Then at 57:20 they read some awkward sex, then close out the show with some audience Q&A. The U Up? LIVE TOUR, presented by Moxy Hotels, is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Double J is back in action just in time for the most regretful night of the year, Thanksgiving Eve. They start by breaking down Jared’s philosophy of the Thanksgiving eve drunk person pace car in hopes to save some listeners from being the drunkest person at the bar. Next, a listener writes in wondering what the best way to up her dating game in real life is in an effort to use the dating apps less. Then they dive into their awkward sexual encounter of the week which features some bad sex and a little too much honesty. Later, a listener writes in wondering how to cancel a subscription-based gift after a breakup. Lastly, a listener writes in wondering how to take a step back and take it slow after falling for a guy very quickly. As usual, they close out the show with a round of red flag or dealbreaker. The U Up? LIVE TOUR, presented by Moxy Hotels, is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J & J are back and start the show with a conversation about how to avoid getting grilled by your family about your relationship status over the holidays. Is Thanksgiving the toughest time to be single around your family? At 13:50 a listener writes in to ask if it’s okay to have dinner with a friend you used to have a crush on even though you’re in a relationship now. Are old love interests completely off limits for one on one drinks, or should your partner trust you enough to let it go? At 27:40 The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a new hookup uncovering an embarrassing search history. At 45:25 another listener writes in to ask for help finding closure after an unexpected breakup with her long-distance boyfriend. Is it possible to get closure on a breakup if you weren’t the one who initiated it? At 1:01:30 an emailer wonders whether his female roommate is getting in the way of finding a girlfriend, or if it’s just a matter of not having his own place. They finish the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breaker

J and J take the show on the road for a very special episode recorded live at The Miami Improv. They begin the show by answering a listener submitted question about sharing your Instagram before a first date. At 8:40 they conduct a dating app profile makeover for a lucky audience member. At 27:50 they invite another guest on stage to do a deal reveal featuring a weird string of texts. At 42:30 they’re joined by Nicole Lopez-Alvar of Bachelor fame to talk about life after Paradise and dating in Miami. Then, at 46:00 they play a revealing round of Red Flag Or Deal Breaker. At 57:40 the Awkward Sexual Encounter involves an unwanted dog in the bedroom, then they close out the show with some audience questions. The U Up? LIVE TOUR, presented by Moxy Hotels, is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Coming in hot from the East Coast live tour, J and J kick off the episode discussing how to be more realistic on dating apps. Have these apps made it too easy for average guys to act like they’re god’s gift to women? At 15:40 a listener writes in to ask about sharing expenses when traveling as a new couple. Is a detailed spreadsheet the sign of a good partner or a huge turn off? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a divorced couple, a bottle of lube, and a muscle cream mix-up. At 39:25 another listener writes in to ask if it’s okay to follow her boyfriend to a new city. Do men and women consider their partner’s needs differently when facing a possible relocation? At 55:55 an emailer is concerned that men won’t want to date her because she’s never been in a serious relationship. Then they close out the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breaker questions and a debate about body wash. The U Up? LIVE TOUR, presented by Moxy Hotels, is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Be

The J’s return to discuss the best way to deal with people who aren’t engaging on the dating apps. At 15:00 a listener writes in wondering how to pull out some conversation with the duds she’s been chatting with on the apps. At 22:45 they dive into their weird sexual encounter of the week from a listener wondering if she should be offended that the guy she’s hooking up with pours her a cup of mouthwash after every bang sesh. At 31:05 a listener writes in wondering whose responsibility it is to keep the communication fluid in a relationship while her boyfriend is away. At 42:25 a listener writes in wondering if it’s possible to maintain mutual friendships after a relationship has ended. At 59:00 they play a round of red flag or deal breaker. The U Up? LIVE TOUR, presented by Moxy Hotels, is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour Check out the new podcast Sibling Revelry from Kate and Oliver Hudson! Click here to listen: Sibling Revelry with Kate Hudson &

J and J take the show on the road for a very special bonus episode recorded live at The Plaza Live in Orlando. They begin the show by asking the question “how do I bring up weird Instagram activity without sounding crazy?” At 19:30 they conduct a dating app profile makeover for a lucky audience member. At 47:20 the hosts of The Two Cups of Joe Podcast, Joey Fatone and Joe Mulvihill, share their dating stories and play a revealing round of Red Flag Or Deal Breaker. At 1:22:00 they close out the show with some audience questions. The U Up? LIVE TOUR, presented by Moxy Hotels, is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The J’s are back in the studio in between their fall tour dates to cozy up and close out the month. They begin by decoding a cryptic text message that may or may not be asking for nudes. At 15:50 they help a listener looking to repair trust with a 4 month fling who was sexting someone else while they were out on a date. At 41:00 a listener writes in asking for an opinion about using the mute feature on Instagram to banish an old flame that was haunting her story views. At 47:20 they dive into their awkward sexual encounter of the week which features an audible out of a blow job and into a solo masturbation. At 1:10:00 a listener writes in wondering if she’s reading too far into a Facebook profile picture of her college boyfriend and another girl. At 1:09:50 they close out the show with a round of Red Flag Or Deal Breaker.   The U Up? LIVE TOUR, presented by Moxy Hotels, is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour Learn more about your ad choices. Visit me

J and J are back to talk about why it’s so hard for women to initiate a date, and tell us the best way to steer the first-date conversation where you want it to go. At 21:05 they answer a listener question about how many dates she should wait before asks the guy out herself. Is it better to take the initiative early on or wait for your moment? At 28:10 the Awkward Sexual Encounter is all about a sleep talker, a weird sex request, and an expression of love that was probably meant for someone else. At 31:30 they address the universally dreaded topic of family holidays when you’re in a newer relationship. Is it ever a good idea to meet the parents for the first time during a holiday gathering? At 54:20 a listener writes in to ask whether or not she is obligated to forgive her ex for cheating on her. At 1:00:20 they close out the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, including one involving a naked portrait. The U Up? LIVE TOUR, presented by Moxy Hotels, is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets now

Fresh off the Southeast leg of the U Up? Live Tour, J and J recap everything that happened on the road. At 11:00 a listener writes in suggesting that people should encourage their boyfriends not to watch porn. Is your sex life destined to be more fulfilling if you cut out porn altogether? At 28:00 the Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a bar mishap, a trip to the ER, and a strange first kiss. At 35:55 another listener shares a strange text she received from the guy she’s dating where he admitted to hitting on her friend. Is this guy trying to make her jealous or is he just that dumb? At 51:35 they give advice to a listener who is unhappy in her career and it’s affecting her dating life. Is it better to hide your insecurities or be up front about them? Then they close the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, including one about finding out who your partner used to sleep with. The U Up? LIVE TOUR, presented by Moxy Hotels, is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to

The Js return from a very happy Yom Kippur to continue the best month of the year, fucktober. They start by addressing a listener who writes in wondering what the best way to let her dates know she’s admittedly high maintenance. At 31:50 they talk about their awkward sexual encounter of the week which features a trip to Tulum, some roadway felatio and a slamming door. At 44:05 a listener writes in wondering what to do about her inferiority complex with her friend. At 59:20 a listener writes in wondering what to do after finding snapchats to an ex on her bf’s phone. At 1:05:50 they play a round of “Red Flag or Deal Breaker”. The U Up? LIVE TOUR, presented by Moxy Hotels, is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uuptour #Entertainment    Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

F*cktober has arrived, aka the season of confusion. J and J are here to offer some clarity, starting with an email about hooking up again the morning after. Does not engaging in morning-after sex ruin your chances of being together? At 37:00 the Awkward Sexual Encounter is all about a weird choice of words. Is it acceptable to tell a girl you’re going to make her “nut” during sex? At 48:00 another listener asks how she should talk to her boyfriend about his terrible texting habits. Then at 1:04:00 they’re joined by Queer Eye star Jonathan Van Ness to talk about his new book Over the Top. They discuss his HIV diagnosis, answer a listener question about trying a same-sex relationship, and share the “forearm test” for figuring out if someone is interested in you. Finally, the close out the show with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker and a celebration of male ass-play.  The U Up? LIVE TOUR, presented by Moxy Hotels, is coming to a city near you! Get your tickets before they sell out by going to Betches.co/uupto

J and J take the show on the road for a very special bonus episode recorded live at the Queen Elizabeth Theatre in Toronto. At 5:30 they ask the question “what’s the best way to be broken up with?” At 15:00 they conduct a dating app profile makeover for an audience member. At 29:20 they play a round of “Red Flag/Deal Breaker”. At 43:00, they untangle a text conversation in their puzzling “Deal Reveal.” At 55:15 they dive into their awkward sexual encounter. Thanks to our sponsors! Head to PRIVACY.COM/UUP to sign up and get $5 to spend on your first purchase. Go to CAPRI-BLUE.COM and use code UUP get 20% off your entire purchase and have your space smelling like the Betches office today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices