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It’s the spookiest episode of the year, and Jordana and Jared are feeling a little trapped in more ways than one! They rank Halloween couple’s costumes for 2024 and explore what your costume choice reveals about your relationship. Then, they tackle a listener’s costume conundrum, where differing opinions on what’s “too sexy” lead to the conclusion that her date is too controlling. Next, an Awkward Encounter that’s more alarming than amusing. Then, they advise a listener who wonders if she’s being unreasonable for expecting her Halloween one-night stand to leave by morning. J&J completely understand her perspective and hold a masterclass on how to nail the perfect one-night stand. Finally, the episode wraps up with a Halloween-themed lightning round of “Red Flag or Deal Breaker,” tackling controversial costumes, costume refusals, and the right time to suggest a couples costume. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

In this Friday’s episode, Jordana navigates the chaos of her impending move, sparking a deeper conversation with Jared about how our living spaces impact relationships. Next, they tackle an Icky or Picky from a listener overwhelmed by her boyfriend’s bombardment of romantic texts. Even though this partner checks all the right boxes on paper, J&J explore why it’s okay to walk away when the spark just isn’t there. Finally, they dive into an email from a listener seeking advice about her boyfriend’s hidden vaping habit, which was downplayed early on. J&J encourage an open conversation that leans into support, not shame—proving that honesty is key. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Non-subscribers, take note: new episodes will now be dropping every Wednesday and Friday at 6 AM EST. Now that business is taken care of, there's a trending breakup J&J need to discuss: Jason Tartick and Kat Stickler. They analyze their breakup announcements, plus discuss societal pressures and expectations put upon celebrity couples. Next, a 31F is having trouble with same-day date cancellations, leading J&J to explore the nuances around when and how to cancel on a date. Then, brace yourself for an Awkward Encounter about a college kiss gone horribly wrong—it still haunts our listener to this day! The second advice email is seeking a masterclass in becoming a more effective PITA (Pain In The Ass). J&J delve into the importance of negotiation in relationships and wielding strong opinions as an advantage. The episode wraps up with a round of “Red Flag or Deal Breaker,” about a surprising pet, a boyfriend who selectively shares, and a date who insists on getting all the cash back. Learn more about your ad choic

Welcome to the inaugural Friday episode! Jared and Jordana are still at Spotify HQ, gavels in hand, ready to tackle Couple's Court. This week, they dive into a sh*tty dilemma from a listener who's struggling to get her boyfriend to clean up his bathroom blow-ups. Jordana passionately sides with the listener, while Jared shares how we can do better as a country when it comes to bathroom supplies. Next, a 30F listener without social media feels uneasy that her 32M boyfriend—who posts frequently—has no pictures of her on his feed. Is it weird that he's leaving her out of his posts even if she was there for those moments? J&J give her tips on how to address the issue with a vulnerable approach instead of an accusatory tone. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, J&J are coming to us from Spotify HQ, and Jordana is realizing she doesn't know NYC as well as she thought. First, they tackle a listener's email about men on dating apps giving her unsolicited advice. J&J discuss how to nail the art of roasting without going off the rails. The Awkward Encounter is a two-parter including a train platform romance gone wrong. Then, another listener needs help validating jealousy after her fiancé shares a compliment he got from a coworker. J&J try to give her perspective and decide if couples should even be sharing the compliments they receive outside their relationship. The episode ends with a round of “Red Flag or Deal Breaker” about a pocketed dirty condom, a mom with a vendetta and a light show at 3 AM. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana kick off this last Sunday Special with a round of “Petty or Prudent?”. They tackle a homemade sign a listener hung in her neighborhood, calling out her ex for his deceitful ways. It’s her bold move to retaliate against a liar and cheater, but J&J have some clever suggestions for delivering her message with a bit more finesse—no neighborhood drama required. Next, J&J give advice to a listener whose boyfriend is still grappling with the emotional fallout from his recent divorce. Despite their amazing adventures and great chemistry this couple might have, J&J focus on the passive aggressive ways he has been downplaying their relationship and wonder if he’s even ready for someone new. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’ve got an update! The Oversharing segment Jared and Jordana disagreed about two weeks ago has extra context, and now Jared feels like apologies are owed (kind of). Then, J&J answer an email from a listener who is considering re-matching with a guy she’s dated before on the apps but she’s worried that he won’t remember her. J&J give her the pep talk she needs to pull the trigger and swipe again. Next, an Awkward Encounter turns a new relationship into a family reunion. The second email is a two-part problem: a listener’s boyfriend is still friends with his exes and she also has a situationship she cannot shake. J&J break down the issues and figure out why we might keep our exes around. The episode ends with a round of “Red Flag or Deal Breaker” about a first date foul, Eras tour tickets lie, and a tacky gift. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's one of our last Sunday Specials before we move to Fridays (read: Thursdays, if you're a subscriber)! J&J kick off with a round of Couple's Court about deleted nudes. Our listener got a weird feeling (iykyk) about her bf, so her gut told her to look through his phone. It looked clean at first until she found deleted nudes of him--and another woman, but here's where it gets strange: he told her that it was just a porn subscription, and the porn star requires him to exchange nudes on Snapchat. When you're done rolling your eyes, listen and get ready to weigh in on whether this is truly an open and shut case. Then, J&J help another listener navigate whether she should consider getting back together with her ex or walk away. He clearly had commitment issues when they were together, but now that they're apart, he took her advice to go to therapy. J&J discuss the boundaries she needs to set moving forward and if his decision to go to therapy is enough to open the door again. Learn more about your ad choices. Vi

Spooky Season has officially started and Jordana kicks us off with an update about the odd happenings in her apartment building. Then, Jared recounts his own bizarre experience that happened the night before. Plus, they weigh in on WalletHub's "Best and Worst Cities To Date In 2024". The Awkward Encounter turns a listener's kink into an ick. Next, a listener who wants to know why men always seem to always settle down after they end a situationship where they couldn’t commit. The episode ends with a round of “Red Flag or Deal Breaker” in partnership with Netflix, including a shared bathroom debate, a long-distance situationship with friends who are possibly too persuasive, and a vegan surprise. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J are easing into another Sunday Special with a quick check-in on the current states of their minds. Jared shares how his new hobby, golf, is one way to watch a man’s insecurities unveiled. Plus, Jordana is going stircrazy in her temporary home while she’s waiting for her house to finish major renovations. Next, they play a round of “Icky or Picky?” about a first date to a nude beach. Afterward, a 29M listener writes in concerned about the trajectory of his relationship. He and his fiancée are feeling less compatible as their relationship goes on, but is he stuck because he already proposed to her? Jared and Jordana take issue with the focus of his email and discuss the importance of communication and knowing when to call it quits. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’re navigating second-guessing today! Jared tells Jordana about his latest trip to Boca, when his parents started dissecting why he’s still single, and Jordana pulls him out his own head. Afterward, they get an email from a listener concerned that her boyfriend is too much of a green flag. She spent her 20s dating toxic “boys,” so why isn’t she satisfied in a stable relationship with a mature man? The Awkward Encounter is a funny story that’ll have you clearing your Google search history. Then, a woman writes in after getting disgusted by her aunt’s reaction to meeting her boyfriend. The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” in partnership with Angry Orchard, about sharing locations, a killer dating app DM, and TikTok thirst traps. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

We’re coming full circle as actress and filmmaker, Heather Graham joins J&J for an extra special Sunday episode. 2 years ago in a Benefits episode, Jordana shared the story of how Heather Graham’s list for manifesting the perfect partner led her and several friends to meet their husbands in a matter of months, and Jared made a list of his own too. Fast-forward to present day where a listener wrote in to announce she’s getting married and those episodes helped her find her man too, so it was finally time Heather Graham knew her impact on the U Up? World. After J&J bring her up to speed on her unknown history with the pod, she shares her affirmations, how her friend group wills what they want into their lives and the ways she’s learned to make better choices than what may feel familiar to someone with a dysfunctional past. The episode ends with a lightning round of “Firsts & Worsts.” For more from Heather Graham (@heathergraham), see her sophomore directorial project, “Chosen Family” on October 11, 2024. Learn

J&J are back in the studio and with the way the U Up? world works, it’s still Jordana’s birthday. They get excited about everything fall has to offer, from dating and the NFL to fall fashion. Plus, a subscriber helps Jordana amend a remark from last week’s chat about Chappell Roan, and Jared gets a touching message from a fan. The first email comes from a 31F listener who’s starting to feel like she’s mothering her 26M partner. Is this a slight play at weaponized incompetence, or just a serious lack of awareness? The Awkward Encounter is a building ick as a 35F listener is struggling to deal with her BF’s snoring or morning kisses while he’s wearing a mouthguard. Next, a listener feels like she won’t get out of her own way when it comes to great matches she’s met on dating apps. The episode ends with a round of “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about backrubs, a surprise home visit, and unsolicited business advice, in partnership with Angry Orchard. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J are reminding us of the “disgustings” they are in today’s Sunday Special, but you’ll forget all about that by the time you hear how unhinged the advice email is. After catching up, they play a round of “Petty or Prudent?” that throws us back to the topic that inspired this segment: sharing streaming services. Is it petty or prudent to kick an ex off of your streaming accounts after a breakup? The episode ends with an advice email from a 40M listener hung up on sex in past relationships despite hearing “wedding bells” for his current partner. Looking beyond the red flags being waved, J&J sense something more problematic going on. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jordana is back from her trip to "Fra" and we’re getting a full recap, which includes her very own Britney Spears moment. Then, in a strange turn of events, we get a dramatic reading of a Chappell Roan song from Jared. Next, we hear from a listener who has an unwanted third person in her relationship: her boyfriend’s brother. J&J try to read between the lines and figure out what this actually means for her relationship. Then, an Awkward Encounter from a listener whose mom opened a very private package. Finally, a love story from a listener who met her dream guy at the Renaissance faire. Is it too far-fetched to travel to another state to pursue her (maybe) knight in shining armor? The episode ends with a round of “Red Flag or Deal Breaker,” in partnership with Angry Orchard, including a partner with a very sexy hobby, a kiss with a childhood crush, and a first date who chose an interesting seat. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this Sunday Special, Jared and Jordana hear from a listener who has been engaged not once, not twice, but three times without ever making it to the altar. Is anyone ever 100% certain before walking down the aisle? First, Jared shares a recent plane mishap that has him thinking that he'll make a good boyfriend one day. Next, they receive a "Couple's Court" from a listener who has beef with her boyfriend's beard, reminding Jordana of a constant grooming conversation she has with her husband. J&J recreate the conversation they think this listener should have to get exactly what she wants. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Long intro lovers, rejoice! Jared and Jordana are kicking off today’s episode with some well-deserved random rants. The first email comes from a listener unsure if she should tell the guy she is currently dating that she hooked up with his friend in the past. Should the new guy even care if she's a "homie hopper"? J&J discuss the double standards when it comes to men and women in this situation. Next, the Awkward Encounter is about a first date that took the phrase “honesty is the best policy” a little too far. Then, J&J help a listener whose partner likes to include others in the bedroom, but she’s not sure if that’s for her. The episode ends with a round of "Made You Blush" stories, in partnership with NYX, featuring an epic ghosting story and a woman who needs to improve her kissing strategy. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It's the first Sunday Special of September meaning cuffing season hasn't arrived yet, so until then, Jared and Jordana are reminding single daters what they should be doing to make the most of dating this fall. Then, the "Icky or Picky?" submission includes one of the most unhinged Hinge voice memos of all time. Next, we hear from a listener who is in a pickle (in more ways than one). While her boyfriend is working overseas, she finds herself falling for her pickleball partner. J&J talk her through the rom-com storyline her life has become. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Today’s episode is full of realizations. First, Jared and Jordana help a listener who downloaded the apps before moving and unexpectedly fell in love. While helping her through a potential long-distance dilemma, J&J agree on a new dating principle they think all single people on the verge of a move should follow. Next up, an Awkward Encounter where a listener is determined to get her jeans back after hooking up with two roommates on the same night. Then, an upset listener writes in after noticing her boyfriend changes into a different person when he’s around his friends, even though he warned her this would happen. Jared puts himself in her boyfriend's shoes to try to understand his reasoning. The episode ends with a round of "Made You Blush" stories, in partnership with NYX, about needing emergency services mid-hookup and getting pranked during an awful date. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This Sunday Special, Kaitlyn Bristowe (@kaitlynbristowe), host of the "Off The Vine" podcast, reunites with her friend Jared and finally meets Jordana for a U Up? crossover we've all been waiting for. Having been the Bachelorette at a pivotal point in the digital era and a year past a relationship so public it warranted a breakup announcement post, Kaitlyn reveals how boundaries with social media have evolved in her career and personal life as a public figure. Then, J&J grill her with a game about what she’s looking for in her next partner. The episode ends with an email from a listener wondering how to navigate the mutual friend group after a breakup. Kaitlyn can relate, sharing a time when someone else from Bachelor Nation confronted her about a date, and the three discuss how important it is to have open communication within a close group. For more from Kaitlyn Bristowe, check out the "Off The Vine" podcast (@offthevinepodcast) where Jared and Jordana will join her soon.  Learn more about your ad choices.