Authentically You-richard & Cheri Himmer

There are two axioms that drive behavior, 1) we are hard wired to connect and 2) we each have a drive to learn, grow, and set & achieve goals. When we don’t connect and/or when we fail to reach our goals, it hurts. When it hurts, we medicate.

The final two levels are Consciously Competent and Unconsciously Competent.

In this segment we address the bottom three levels of EI competence. Intentionally Incompetent - the bully syndrome. Unconsciously Incompetent - the engineer mindset. Consciously Incompetent - the willing student.

There are seven things flourishing adults do. The start with forming their identity, learn how to live perfectly (Dr. Himmer’s definition of perfect), learn to effectively socialize, and develop their own fox hole (principle based environment) in which to grow.

30 is the new 20. 85% of 19 - 30 year olds don’t see themselves as an adult. What’s going on? Researchers categorize emerging adults as flounderers or flourishers. Today we discuss flounderers.

Empaths tend to take the energy of others into themselves and compromise their identity and their authenticity.

Even at the corporate level, the principles of integrating your upstairs (Hiccup) and downstairs (Toothless) brains are critical.

Scupper’s owner, Mia, isn’t as keen on cleaning up his poop and Mia’s mom isn’t cool with her attitude. Mia tells her mother that she is worst mom in the world. How does she handle her teenager’s cognitive distortion?

What do Epictetus, Shakespeare, and Boethius all have in common? They all identified the challenge of cognitive distortions that are driven from false narratives.

TJ Hoisington joins us to mostly finish our discussion on building self-confidence.

When we get stuck in our heads we often fail to notice our internal beliefs.

When we avoid challenges that would make us stonger, we compromise our strength and ability to cope with life.

Have we, as a society, gone too far in protecting our children?

TJ Hoisington shares five of his ten tips on building self-confidence.

TJ Hoisington joins Dr. Himmer to discuss how most people aim too low and hit their goal vs. people who aim too high and miss.

If you want to create a new habit, get rid of a bad habit, make new friends, or run a marathon, it is vital that you learn how to create an environment that makes good decisions for you

On Saturday, Cheri woke up from a dream about our Great Dane Astrid, who we lost a few months ago to old age. During the conversation Rich connected how dogs and spouses are similar. Cheri wasn’t too hip on the idea at first, but she gathered steam.

What happens in situational stress? We flip! We move to fight or flight. Using paradoxical technology, one’s behavior can be predictable.

There are 12 pairs of paradoxical behaviors. Today we address the communication paradox and Cheri’s tendency to be blunt with her loving husband.

A paradox is two seemingly contradictory behaviors (tough & love) that are, in fact, complimentary. We also address Dr. Harrison’s Enjoyment Performance Theory.