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Today, Ali talks to licensed individual and couples therapist Marly Steinman about her four-year-long infertility journey, including many early losses, an egg quality issue, anxiety, and a lot of guilt. She talks about "sobbing eyes out in the bathroom" while giving herself a shot at a baby shower, financial frustrations, and feeling like it was her fault because her body "wasn't working." She also talks about her own surrogacy journey, welcoming her twins, Jack & Celine, via surrogacy in 2019, and why today, her work includes helping other intended parents navigate their own journeys through surrogacy. MORE ABOUT MARLY: As a licensed marriage & family therapist of 12 years, specializing in fertility issues, Marly decided to use her experience to help other parents navigate what felt like an impossible and uncertain process.As a surrogacy consultant, Marly’s ambition is to help make parenthood possible for all. From helping you find the right surrogate and or donor, to building a t

Today, Ali talks Aaron and MJ, who are married and also co-authored the book, "Men and Miscarriage: A Dad's Guide to Grief, Relationships and Healing After Loss." Aaron and MJ get allll into it, including how men don't know how to express their feelings around miscarriage, infertility and loss; their devastating loss of a baby at almost 17 weeks due to Sirenomelia, also known as mermaid syndrome; and how, when they went to terminate the pregnancy for medical reasons, they were faced with very outspoken anti-choice protestors. They also talk about the PTSD of infertility, their five or six total losses, and how they feel today, with three healthy boys. Topics covered in this episode:Infertility; marital issues surrounding loss, grief and infertility: Sirenomelia or mermaid syndrome; termination for medical reasons or TFMR; miscarriage; recurrent miscarriage, recurrent pregnancy loss; PTSD; Chron's Disease; fertility support. Episode sponsors: FERTILITY RALLY @fertilityrallyNo one should go

Today, Ali talks to the Today Show's Sheinelle Jones about her own fertility journey and her devastating miscarriage—and her new documentary, "The Stories We Tell: The Fertility Secret," which airs tonight on MSNBC. Episode sponsors: FERTILITY RALLY @fertilityrallyNo one should go through infertility alone. Join the Worst Club with the Best Members at www.fertilityrally.com. Doors open the 1st of every month. See more on our IG @fertilityrallyPREMAMAPremama creates doctor-backed supplements that support every stage of your maternity wellness journey. Premama Fertility support for Her is the #1 selling over the counter fertility supplement for women trying to conceive. All Premama supplements are gluten-free, non-GMO, vegan or vegetarian, with no additives and no synthetic flavors. Discover why moms (and dads-to-be!) trust Premama wellness for their nutritional support from preconception to postpartum by visiting Premamawellness.com. You can get your first month supply free when you subscribe to an

Not all of these stories end with babies. And this is one of those stories. Today, Ali talks to Jody, @childless_and_confident, who, after being diagnosed with early menopause at 37 or 38, decided she did not want to pursue fertility treatments to have children. Instead, she pivoted to embrace a life without children. "I need to help people find a path that shows them that there are great things to experience, and there's great happiness to pursue, and just because you don't have a child doesn't mean your life isn't complete," she says.TOPICS COVERED IN THIS EPISODE:Infertility; early menopause; NOT pursuing IVF or ART; societal pressures of having children; embracing a childfree life; relationship and marriage issues; what to say to someone who asks why you don't have children; how adoption in Australia is "deeply expensive,"; egg donation; grief; living out "Plan B Fabulous." EPISODE SPONSORS:FERTILITY RALLY @fertilityrallyNo one should go through infertility alon

Today's guest, Stephanie, has been through it all during her infertility journey, including unexplained infertility, a daughter who ended up in the NICU and had to have brain surgery; a natural pregnancy that had to be terminated for medical reasons, and 10 IVF transfers. Ten! You read that correctly. Now about to give birth again, Stephanie recalls everything she's been through--and why she wants to help people everywhere by sharing her incredible story. TOPICS COVERED IN THIS EPISODE:Infertility; infertility trauma; IVF; brain surgery; NICU babies; NICU trauma; egg retrievals; Trisomy 21; termination for medical reasons; infertility triggers; infant and baby loss; pregnancy loss; the anxiety of pregnancy after infertility; natural pregnancy; relationship and marriage issues; breast cancer; the "random crapshoot" of infertility. EPISODE SPONSORS:FERTILITY RALLY @fertilityrallyNo one should go through infertility alone. Join the Worst Club with the Best Members at www.fertilityrally.com. Doors

Today, Ali talks to entrepreneur, creative director of Poppington, author (of the children's book, "Dusko Goes to Space") and infertility advocate Raquel Horn about the years-long fertility journey she went through with her fiance, music mogul Damon Dash. Raquel and Damon have been through a tremendous amount as they've tried to expand their family, from going vegan, embracing acupuncture and doing IUIs, to going through IVF and experiencing the heartbreaking late term pregnancy loss of their baby daughter--after Raquel's baby shower was on TV. Raquel is an open book about her entire roller coaster of a journey, including how they grieved, when and why they decided to try again, and what it was REALLY like to finally become pregnant with and become parents to baby Dusko, their now one-year-old son. TOPICS COVERED IN THIS EPISODE:Infertility; infertility trauma; IVF; IUIs and unsuccessful IUIs; acupuncture; normalizing the infertility conversation; blasting taboos; uterine polyps; holistic

Today, Jacqueline, who has always wanted to tell her story on a fertility podcast, is checking that goal off her list. She starts by telling Ali about her husband's battle with kidney cancer, and the very interesting, very lucky way his cancer was discovered. Then she explains how male factor infertility came into play (in the form of low sperm count), what happened when she went through IVF, the extreme anxiety of pregnancy after IVF, and, after having two babies, the moral dilemma of having more embryos on ice. TOPICS COVERED IN THIS EPISODE:Infertility; infertility trauma; IVF; IUI; hyperstimulation; kidney cancer; male factor infertility; low sperm count; normalizing the infertility conversation; traumatic pregnancy; the anxiety of pregnancy after infertility; self-care; frozen embryos. EPISODE SPONSORS:FERTILITY RALLY @fertilityrallyNo one should go through infertility alone. Join the Worst Club with the Best Members at www.fertilityrally.com. Doors open the 1st of every month. See more on our IG @fe

Tara Brandner is a nurse practitioner, an infertility warrior and a full-time fertility coach. Like so many of you, she's endured a long road through infertility, followed by infertility treatments and a traumatic pregnancy. Today, she talks to Ali about all the things, including feeling lonely and confused, making a shift to a "not healthy mental space", why she left a clinic after her doctor said something really rude to her; her unexplained infertility; finally being diagnosed with endometriosis; why it's important for everyone to feel like they can trust their doctor and their clinic; the fear of pregnancy after infertility, and how she was life-flighted after a massive bleed at 32 weeks. TOPICS COVERED IN THIS EPISODE:Infertility; infertility trauma; IVF; IUI; fertility coaching; miscarriage and loss; endometriosis; the power of community; traumatic pregnancy; anxiety during pregnancy after infertility; self-care. EPISODE SPONSORS:FERTILITY RALLY, @fertilityrallyNo one should go through i

This is the story of two sisters who each have their own infertility journeys—but they are also very much intertwined. Both Emily and Katie had one child, and then, in 2019, their world was rocked when Emily was diagnosed with appendix cancer. After a surgery that took her ovaries, Katie donated her eggs to her sister, Emily, so she could try for her second kid. And then a lot more happened after that. Today, Ali gets the entire story from these two incredible sisters. Grab the tissues because this story is beautiful, and heartbreaking, and also a true testament of love and the incredible bond between two sisters. TOPICS COVERED IN THIS EPISODE:Cancer, appendix cancer, IVF, failed transfers, miscarriage, recurrent pregnancy loss, anxiety and intense emotions, egg donation, egg donation between family members, fresh transfers, FETs, the intense bond of sisterhood, pregnancy after loss, being in the thick of infertility.  EPISODE SPONSORS:FERTILITY RALLYNo one should go through infertility alone. Join the Worst

Today, Ali talks to Nicole, who is still in the middle of what she calls her "infertility puzzle," -- with no baby yet. Nicole shares what she's been through so far, including not being able to get pregnant naturally, starting with IUI because she wasn't yet ready for IVF, a chemical pregnancy, getting those "big, fat, negative" pregnancy tests and the devastation of her two unsuccessful transfers. She also talks about how difficult it is to explain infertility to your parents and family, how she handled her emotions being "all over the place," why she found it so important to take a break from treatment, and asking herself, "Am I gonna ever get pregnant?"TOPICS COVERED IN THIS EPISODE:Endometriosis, IUI, IVF, failed transfers, chemical pregnancy, anxiety and intense emotions, taking a break, questioning one's bodyEPISODE SPONSORSFERTILITY RALLYNo one should go through infertility alone. Join the Worst Club with the Best Members at www.fertilityrally.com -- our door

Ashley has been a surrogate to three babies and has three kiddos of her own, and today, she talks to Ali about what it's really like to be a surrogate: Why does someone do it, What are the logistics, Where does one even begin? She also talks about the difference being a surrogate for a same sex couple and a couple that has gone through infertility. Then, she answers frequently asked questions about the surrogacy process--some of which may surprise you.TOPICS COVERED IN THIS EPISODE:Surrogacy; becoming a surrogate or a gestational carrier; the anxiety of pregnancy after loss; surrogacy via agency and not via agency; same sex family building; surrogacy after infertility; intended parents. EPISODE SPONSORS: FERTILITY RALLY No one should go through infertility alone. Join the Worst Club with the Best Members at www.fertilityrally.com -- our annual rate is just $109 until November 1!FIRST REPUBLICWith a best-in-class banking app that allows you to bank anywhere, anytime, and a dedicated personal banker when yo

On this episode, Ali talks to her friend and InCircle Fertility co-founder Sophie about navigating the "maze" of infertility. Sophie explains how her struggle with anorexia in her 20s may have played a role in her ability to have a baby, how she didn't hear a heartbeat at her first baby's second ultrasound, that "slow motion, underwater feeling" when the ultrasound tech's face drops, how the loss of embryos was as hard as her miscarriages, and her two D&Cs. Sophie also gets into her endometrial function test, a hysteroscopy that was supposed to happen but never did, how unsexy sex is when you're trying to conceive, and the pressures and complications of secondary infertility. TOPICS COVERED IN THIS EPISODE: Anorexia and Eating DisordersRelationship Issues and Unsexy SexEmbryo LossMiscarriage and D&CsEndometrial Function TestHysteroscopySecondary InfertilityInfertility and Mental HealthFertility CoachingThe Importance of Finding CommunityEPISODE SPONSORS: FERTILITY RALLY

Today, Ali talks to Michelle, who went through IVF in the late Nineties, about how much things have changed between now and then. At 31, Michelle was diagnosed with premature ovarian failure and told, "You might as well go straight to donor eggs." But she didn't--and today she shares everything she went through, including IUIs, frozen embryo transfers, "assisted hatching," a psychic surgery, and more. Michelle now works for Donor Concierge, www.donorconcierge.com and Tulip, www.tulipfertility.com, helping people build their families through donor conception. SPONSORS: FERTILITY RALLY LIVENo one should go through infertility alone. Our all-day virtual event is happening on 10/23. Get your tickets at https://www.accelevents.com/e/fertilityrallylivefall2021This fall's topics include infertility and mental health, male factor infertility, endo, environmental toxins, IVF abroad, recurrent miscarriage, late term loss, surrogacy, donor conception, pregnancy and motherhood after infertility an

Today, Ali hears all about Rachel's long and winding road to motherhood, including her diagnosis of Asherman's Syndrome and the "missed miscarriage" she suffered at the beginning of her fertility journey. Rachel goes on to talk about all the things, including the frustrations of starting IVF in March 2020 right as the world was shutting down, a pregnancy that included placenta previa, and why, at one point, her doctor said to her, "Rachel, this organ, your uterus, is not serving you well, and I don't think you should ask any more of it." Listen until the very end, because Rachel's story also includes a surprise twist ending!EPISODE SPONSORS:FERTILITY RALLY LIVENo one should go through infertility alone. Our all-day virtual event is happening on 10/23. Get your tickets at https://www.accelevents.com/e/fertilityrallylivefall2021This fall's topics include infertility and mental health, male factor infertility, endo, environmental toxins, IVF abroad, recurrent miscarriage, late

Nicola Salmon is a self-proclaimed "Fat-positive fertility coach, a Fat Activist and Author of, "The Person’s Guide to Getting Pregnant.” Today, she talks to Ali about her own personal fertility journey, from being diagnosed with PCOS at the age of 16 to facing lifelong discrimination from doctors because of her weight. She talks about having her two sons, the anxiety she faced during pregnancy, and how "it is so exaggerated the way that weight impacts fertility." Nicola's goal is to support people and help them advocate for themselves. She talks about the importance of "weight-inclusive" fertility care, helping people believe and understand that they are worthy of that care, and why "the majority of clinics will not support fat people, and it's shocking." EPISODE SPONSORS:FERTILITY RALLY LIVENo one should go through infertility alone. Find out more about the Worst Club with the Best Members at www.fertilityrally.com and on Instagram at @fertilityrally. We offer 24/7 Co

Becky Fawcett is a mama of two via adoption, an #infertilitywarrior, a three time #miscarriage survivor and the founder of @helpusadopt — which gives grants to people who are building their families through adoption. It is an AMAZING org that you’ll hear about today, as Becky talks to Ali about her nine-year infertility journey -- and how she ultimately ended up with two amazing children through adoption. Ali and Becky have a no-bullshit convo about all things adoption, finding a birth mother, being on a different page from your partner, infertility, miscarriages, the ignorant things people say to adoptive parents, how much everything costs, and more. EPISODE SPONSORS:FERTILITY RALLYNo one should go through infertility alone. Find out more about the Worst Club with the Best Members at www.fertilityrally.com and on Instagram at @fertilityrally. We offer 24/7 Community, Content and Curated Events. Give yourself or a fellow infertility warrior the gift of support while navigating your journey. EVERYONE is welcom

On this episode, Ali is talking to Jon Waldman, author of the book, "Swimming Aimlessly," which takes a deep dive into the six year infertility journey he went through with his wife. "It was a space that needs to be filled," he says of writing the book. "There isn't a lot of talk about what men go through." Jon talks about mental health, inner turmoil, and going through a miscarriage alongside his wife, as well as what happened when they traveled to do IVF. He also shares resources, both on social media and elsewhere, for guys who are going through their own infertility struggles. EPISODE SPONSORS:FERTILITY RALLYNo one should go through infertility alone. Find out more about the Worst Club with the Best Members at www.fertilityrally.com and on Instagram at @fertilityrally. We offer 24/7 Community, Content and Curated Events. Give yourself or a fellow infertility warrior the gift of support while navigating your journey. EVERYONE is welcome. Come and join our family--you will be so

Dacia James Lewis is a Hollywood choreographer and author of the book, "The Game of Life: Releasing the Weight When God Says Wait." Today, she tells Ali about her infertility journey and how, although she's been trying to have a baby for several years, it hasn't yet happened. Dacia says, "I want people to know that there's somebody still waiting with them. There's somebody still praying with them. There's somebody still going through this journey that they can relate to." Dacia also talks about her faith, her husband's varicocele, why they're choosing to not do IUI or IVF, what it feels like to go through infertility as a woman of color, and why she decided to write a book. EPISODE SPONSORS:FERTILITY RALLYNo one should go through infertility alone. Find out more about the Worst Club with the Best Members at www.fertilityrally.com and on Instagram at @fertilityrally. We offer 24/7 Community, Content and Curated Events. Give yourself or a fellow infertility warrior th

Today Ali is talking to her friend Elizabeth King, who she met through Instagram, and who is a Certified Fertility Health Coach, Birth & Bereavement Doula and New Parent Educator. Elizabeth tells Ali about her journey to becoming a mother over 40 to her three littles. Along the way: Freezing her eggs when she was single in her 30s, meeting her husband at 39 and feeling ashamed, guilty and broken when she wasn't getting pregnant on her own. She also discusses her fibroid surgery, her two miscarriages, the two babies she got pregnant with naturally, and the third baby she had after doing an IUI. Today, Elizabeth is a fertility coach, so she shares the tools she's learned for anyone going through infertility or using ART to build their families. EPISODE SPONSORS:FERTILITY RALLYNo one should go through infertility alone. Find out more about the Worst Club with the Best Members at www.fertilityrally.com and on Instagram at @fertilityrally. We offer 24/7 Community, Content and Curated Events. Give yours

Today, Ali talks to cult-fave jewelry designer Stephanie Gottlieb @stephaniegottlieb about the journey to having her two babies, which includes marrying her high school sweetheart, her devastating chemical pregnancy, "skinny PCOS," and the pure rage she felt at certain points during her journey. She also talks about the importance of great bedside manner and a confident doctor, what happened when they did IVF, and why she felt like she "had this dirty secret for a full year" before she told anyone what was going on. EPISODE SPONSORS: FERTILITY RALLYNo one should go through infertility alone. Find out more about the Worst Club with the Best Members at www.fertilityrally.com and on Instagram at @fertilityrally. We offer 24/7 Community, Content and Curated Events. Give yourself or a fellow infertility warrior the gift of support while navigating your journey. EVERYONE is welcome. Come and join our family--you will be so happy you did.BELI @beli.babyBeli is formulated with the right nutrients to h