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Introduction Understanding Abandonment and Connection Human Need for Connection: Oxytocin drives our need for connection from infancy. Early dependency on caregivers forms the foundation for future relationship expectations. Development of Abandonment Fears: Schemas: Cognitive frameworks developed based on past experiences, influencing how we perceive and react to abandonment. Beliefs: Early interactions, especially inconsistent caregiving, shape beliefs about others' reliability and our own worth. Impact of Insecure Attachment Attachment in Childhood: Secure attachments provide a buffer against stress and help in developing healthy self-concepts. Insecure attachments result from neglect, inconsistent caregiving, or trauma, leading to chronic feelings of unsafety and disempowerment. Behavioral Responses to Abandonment: Fight or Flight: Children with insecure attachment often remain in a heightened state of anxiety, which continues into adulthood. Emotional Regulation: Insecurely attached