Me Being Me

My wife and I are attending a marriage class at the church. It seems a majority of the attendees seemed to be in this mindset that if one of them is connected to God and the other one isn't and is distancing themselves from God, then the two people really aren't going to be connected. I was confused by this.   What really has a usefulness to me is understanding that God is pure consciousness, pure choice and, and the way that that applies in our lives is God is the ability to change our own mind, our own perspective.  If the other one really is truly connected to God, then what is God? Let's say God is pure love, pure acceptance, pure understanding, nothing but pure forgiveness.Imagine the worst, the most evil, vile, hurtful thing that you would never want to reveal about yourself to Christ, the Christ consciousness, and when you do that, you know you're thinking. I know that Christ is ultra-forgiving, he's ultra-loving and just, unconditional. You may be thinking this is so wrong, so, so dark. I doubt that h