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After having conversations with men all over this country, Dr. Sean Holland tells the raw truth of what men are experiencing while dating. These are men who are truly seeking a long term relationships. He shares exactly what’s going in a man’s head and heart while he’s single and searching. Ladies, ever wish you could just pry open his head and read his thoughts what’s going in his head? Guys, ever wonder if you’re alone in your concerns when searching for that one special woman? We’ll this conversation could be a start. Here’s what we are talking about

There's nothing like hearing the authentic voice of men when comes to dating. No games, no hesitancy, no guards up -- just the simple raw truth. This week, that's exactly what you'll hear. After talking with guys from all over the country, Pastor Sean Holland gives the unadulterated truth from the brothas who are searching for the love of their life. He's sharing the truths about what real men experience - the good, bad, and ugly - while searching for the real thing. This is part one of a four part series on what both men and women are experiencing on the dating the scene.

Do you identify with the label "bad b!tch?" Do you get an ego boost when someone refers to you in that manner? Do you aspire to be everything that comes along with being what mainstream media currently defines as a bad b!tch? We'll let me warn you, all that glitters isn't gold. If you don't know, the phrase bad b!tch has been redefined as a superwoman of sorts, a mythological woman that has it together on all levels from her household, to her business, to her emotions, to her sexuality - everything is always in check and on point. Now let's be clear, I'm not referring to the use of the word that's been used dehumanize woman. The manner in which artist Queen Latifah's rejects it's definition in the famed song U-N-I-T-Y where she laces the background with the question "who you calling a b!tch?" The use of b-word here is self-proclaiming, affirming, and even empowering by some measures. But is the term and all that comes along with it healthy? In part 2 of "The Implications of being labeled the Bad B!tch" we ex

What exactly is a bad bitch? Colloquially it’s a woman who is remarkably exceptional in every area of her life. She excels in the workplace, manages her home, is sexually appealing, and is revered in social circles for hard work ethic and accomplishments. I heard the phrase used to acknowledge the “greatness,” the prowess, the amazing conquering abilities of women of all types of walks of life from the hood to the White House. So how could a word that is used to uplift be so damaging? Because it is a myth. A bad bitch feeds the narrative of the mythological super woman specifically black woman that can do all things – hold her man down, bring home the bacon, make the bacon, be a sex kitten, and the list goes on. But the one thing that this mythological creature fails at maintaining is her health. This bad bitch and the women that aspire to be her are literally dying. Internal Health Physician & Hospitalist, Doc Bintu, of Heart Beats & Hip Hop shares the correlation of the aspiration of becoming a bad

For the most part, we agree that in order to lose weight the equation is simple: Eat right & exercise - consistently. Now this is barring any type of medical conditions that can prohibit weight loss - like perhaps a thyroid issue. But one important factor that many doctors, experts, or even women who have reached the goals of healthy lifestyle have failed to address, is an emotional wound that is often tied to the weight gain. Thus the weight loss is ultimately tied emotional healing . This week on Good Girl Radio, a women shares how she discovered why she continued incessantly struggling to lose weight year after year, program after program, and trainer after trainer. She says not until recently did she connect her struggle with an emotional wound. Listen as she confesses how her battle with weight loss goes much deeper than the physical.

Oh how we love the Facebook pictures of expecting couples! Everything from the extra pair of too cute booties to the first born wearing a "I'm going to be a big brother or sister" shirt or the classic man holds wife bare belly pic...but how much work really went into making that baby? Much to my dismay... A LOT! The mere fact that you are if reading this, is a miracle. Dr. Carole Kowalczyk of The Michigan Center for Fertility & Women's Health says there is only a 15% chance per month that a woman will get pregnant. That's a very small window. So what exactly goes into baby-making? Spoiler alert: It's not just we get married, have sex, badaboom badabing - then the woman's stomach grows for 9 months. For a lot of couples it's tough. Listen as we chat with Dr. Kowalczyk about the issues many couples have with conceiving - both men & women. It's not just a woman's issue. This conversation is only one out of many where we want to have a very conversation on the realities of conception for many couples. Li

Being married to a man in the public's eye has its fair share of challenges. Challenges that some couples handle gracefully and others struggle until they find a sweet spot. But just as difficult and unique as those challenges may be, they can also produce a relationship so deep and so connected extraordinary love that only the heavens could separate the couple. In Part I of Extraordinary Love Dr. Sephira Shuttlesworth shares some of those very details of her self-described extraordinary love to the late civil rights icon Fred Shuttlesworth known as one the Big Three civil rights leaders that included Dr. Martin Luther King, Ralph Abernathy, and and Fred Shuttlesworth. In this intimate conversation, she dishes not only how she "caught the big fish" but also how she prepared herself for the man who was described as most feared man by southern racist by a 1961 documentary. She says, "God knows what you need when you need it." Even though graciously shared some of her newest revelations, even up until this morn

There are very few people who intimidate me. Situations have intimidated me. Speaking engagements, without a doubt, have provided a healthy dose of intimidation. And definitely, career opportunities have knocked some fear in my nary hips. But people? nahhh. But oh contrar! During this show, that all changed. I've learned that people are people with a common need of love and God (one in the same). But when I met Dr. Sephira Shuttlesworth, my spirit was quieted, almost silenced, and I simply had no words. She had both and so much more- most overtly extraordinary black love. Dr. Shuttlesworth is spent the earlier part of her life creating history without even knowing it by desegregating her local elementary school in 1965 in Jackson, MS. She's also the wife to described in a 1961 CBS documentary as "the man most feared by Southern racists," Rev. Fred Shuttlesworth. The history books titled Rev. Shuttlesworth along with Dr. Martin Luther King, and Ralph Abernathy as the Big Three. In part I of this insightful, h

I finally got to the point of describing the men's perspective as sexist. Straight up, no chaser...sexist. This only came after barely scratching the surface in Part 1 of this conversation on double standards. I wanted to confront why two men where adamantly defending a non productive societal lie that's destructive to relationships and humans in general - double standards. Specifically in this context it's whe idea of not allowing a woman the freedom to error and be human but rather holding her to the mistakes of her past. This clearly a struck chord.

Have you ever had that one friend that responded to a conversation with a comment that was so egregious comment about double standards you had go into prayer? Or the comment concerned you so much that paused and politely asked for clarification. And even after the clarification you chuckled, stopped, and said, "You're not serious, are you?" We'll that's how this conversation began. On a Saturday night, over garlic & BBQ chicken wings and a bean burger with four single folk at a table - two guys and two girls. There was the right perspective perspective both women at the table held and the perspective both the men held. The center of the conversation were double standards specifically was whether you would date someone with the same past as you.

On Part II of "I'm friends with the other woman" Keesha shares her remarkable story of becoming friends with the woman whom her husband had an affair with. In this conversation we learn the real raw process of forgiveness. Keesha details some of the contents of a letter the other woman wrote to her. Much to the dismay of many, Keesha says the letter was essential to the healing process. But before the healing began, many other characteristics rightfully reared their ugly head publicly - anger, frustration, hate, and animosity - just to name a few. She was not ashamed to let the world know how she felt! The angst toward the woman ran so deep that Keesha even says that she felt responsible for some of the medical issues the woman faced during her pregnancy. But after listening, learning, and laughing from this conversation, we know it's such a beautiful & freeing thing when we can forgive some of the most hurtful acts that leave the deepest emotional scars. It's beautiful because the act of forgiveness not

Forgiveness can be one of thee most difficult things to do in life. It is lauded by many as the way to go or the righteous and noble task to undertake. But what happens when the offense is especially egregious or heinous? What happens when a scared bond is broken or covenant is shattered? Is forgiveness still warranted? Is the offended still required to take on the arduous and emotional lamenting process of forgiveness (yes it's a process)? We'll just imagine for a moment that your spouse cheated and for some reason or another you are asked to forgive the other woman. What do you do? That's what this conversation is about. One woman goes as far as becoming friends with "other woman." Yes, you read that correctly, friends. It's one thing to forgive your spouse in this situation but to extend a hand of fellowship to the other soul...that is nothing but God himself in human form! This is why we are so intrigued by this story. Last week, we reposted the couple's love story, He Cheated. She Stayed. Deeper In Love

In the final part of the 3-part series "He cheated. She stayed. Deeper in love, " I asked the couple a very straightforward question - how did cheating make their relationship better? Their answer was just as straightforward. They said, "we dropped the facade." In the conversation we learned that couple kept up a continuous facade to their family & friends that their marriage perfect but the fictitious smiles and gazes of love only added to their problems. The husband, DeMadison, was also forced to face the reality of the decision he made to cheat on his wife. He shares how he reconciled his decision with himself, his wife, and God. Through his candid conversation he takes us step by step in what had show, do, and be to repair the damage. Through this couple's love story, we learn what it truly means to be in a healthy committed realtionship. The couple even challenges those may be experiencing a similar situation to not only give everything you but also stand in the midst of the storm. Listen to part 3

Usually cheating is the "out" for couples who make a vow & commitment to love until death do you part. Cheating is thee ultimate deal-breaker in the commitment and covenant both individuals gave before family, friends, and God. Cheating is the one thing that even the bible says "you are free to go." And obviously we are paraphrasing here. But for one couple, ending the marriage wasn't an option. In part 2 of "He cheated. She stayed. Deeper in Love." Keesha Fife explains why she decided to stay. In the very transparent conversation she opens up about the stages of anger, hurt, and constant forgiveness to get to her happily ever after. In the process, she was forced to accept her role in the affair. She says, "O, Girl that was a long road. I didn't look in that mirror at first. I threw some pots, pans, flowers...I wanted to jump on some skulls." If you were in the room during the conversation you would clearly see & feel that their love is stronger than ever. It's only in part 2 of this series where we

When two people make a conscious decision to be in a committed monogamous relationship, that commitment is grounded in the belief that the relationship grows and is sustained because the spiritual, emotional, and physical intimacy. Therefore when that intimacy is breached, trust is broken, and the relationship suffers. That's why for the majority of couples , cheating is the deal breaker. Whether it's emotional or physical it's that one rule you simply don't break. This week we decided to resurrect this oldie but goodie 3- part series interview where a married couple had to face the reality of infidelity in their marriage. There are so many pieces of wisdom in this raw interview that individuals who want a relationship, are in a relationship, want to be married or are married can get their life! Through this unabashed conversation, we learned that there are many misconceptions about what it takes to be and maintain a healthy committed realtionship. Forgiveness, responsibility, acceptance, trust, patience, pa

"This is heavy." Those are the words of 30 something year old "Britney" while sharing the her confession. Britney went from being a 28 year old virgin dedicating her life to God to sleeping with two men in the same day. She says that one reason that contributed to what she describes as a downfall, was the nature of previous relationship, where she was never good enough. As we edited and listened to this interview we learned two very important things. 1) We will now welcome anonymous confessions. 2) There are several factors that push us & keep individuals in unhealthy relationships. Britney's story highlighted our need to feel wanted, our ability to silence the voice of God (some may call it conscious, gut, Holy Spirit), and the reality of consequences of our actions. Her confession is heavy. It did not end on a light note. It clearly illustrated the weight of our choices. Britney's confession can be a cautionary tale for some or a way to identify exactly what has happened or is happening to you emotional

This week a woman, who we are calling Britney, confessed that she was a 28 year-old virgin who transitioned to sleeping with two men in the same day, in the morning and evening. Britney has always described herself as a woman who dedicated her life to God, through ministry , family, and her everyday actions but somewhere along the way things changed. In the candid interview Britney shares why she begin to subtly push back her boundaries of sex outside of marriage. She unabashedly describes the "situationships" as both the pleasure & fun and toll & nagging on her physically, emotionally, and spiritually.

Grammy-Nominated music producer, Brandon Williams, details one the most difficult experiences in his life on part II of our conversation. Not only does he share two confessions but he describes how he made it through a difficult medical diagnosis. But don't let Brandon's seriousness fool you! He manages to get a few chuckles in and even challenges Cameo to sing!

Grammy nominated producer & Detroit native, Brandon Williams graces the airwaves of Good Girl Radio this week! Brandon has worked with a diversity of artist from gospel great Vickie Winans to rapper Jada Kiss to Janet Jackson and Erykah Badu, just to name a few. He is the protege of legendary producer Michael Powell (Anita Baker). In our very candid interview he shares about the failures of current R&B music but also about one of the darkest moments in his life.

In part II of American Masculinity and it's lies, we are delving further into the conversation from free film screening of The Mask You Live hosted by MSU's Women's Resource Center last week. Today we sit down with a 29 year old man, who during his collegiate career was emerged in the hyper-masculine culture as a Michigan State University athlete. Jeremy Orr reveals how "being a man" by America's standards actually hindered some of the best things in life.