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Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re talking about a listener’s unpopular opinion on marriage. The emailer doesn’t think marriage is right for him, not because he’s afraid of commitment but because he doesn’t think it holds the same value in a modern relationship. Is it okay to date without having the end goal of marriage? How should you explain that to your S.O.? Plus, J&J talk about the benefits of marriage today. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion about a survey sent to a listener by two of his dating app matches. Is this actually a good way to get to know someone? Next, a listener writes in for help after she told her boyfriend she loved him and he didn’t say it back. Can you ever come back from that conversation if it doesn't go well? Later, an awkward date takes the joke too far in an Awkward Sexual Encounter. Another emailer asks for advice on getting back together with an ex whose family doesn’t like her, but J&J see some bigger problems with the relationship. Finally, they finish up the episode by playing Red Flag or Deal Breaker which sparks a discussion about zodiac compatibility and LinkedIn affairs. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back with another Sunday Special, and this week they’re discussing how to interpret a guy’s lovey dovey messages and whether or not they mean he wants something more. A listener writes in detailing her vacation fling that she doesn’t believe could be a long-term match for her. Does she need to tell him she doesn’t want anything serious or can she continue her beachy booty call without addressing his feelings? Plus, they talk about the best way to be honest about your intentions for a relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this week’s episode, Jared and Jordana start the podcast off by discussing the pros and cons of continuing a long-term relationship that started in college. A listener writes in asking if it’s possible to make things work with her boyfriend even though she feels like she has matured faster than him. Is it ever worth it to wait for an S.O. to grow up? Later, an emailer gets an earful during an Awkward Sexual Encounter. Another listener asks about girl code surrounding dating app matches. Is it fair to be mad at your friend for going out with a guy you matched with first? Finally, they end the episode with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breaker which sparks a discussion about dog custody battles and bad tattoos. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Judge J & J are back for another Sunday Special, and this week they’re breaking down texts between a listener and her boyfriend to figure out what went wrong with their plans for a Friday night in. How clear do you need to be with your expectations for a date night to avoid being disappointed? Plus, Jared and Jordana discuss telling white lies in relationships and whether or not they’re a red flag for the future. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, Jared and Jordana start out with a discussion of what it means to be “casual,” and how long you should wait to see if a relationship could turn into something more. A listener writes in with a question about a guy who isn’t in a hurry to progress the relationship. Is it ever too early in a relationship to start owning your standards? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves more tears than your average sex-scapade. Another emailer writes in for advice on how to tell her boyfriend that he’s not invited to her family vacation until he puts a ring on it. Do you need to be engaged before introducing your significant other to your extended family? Finally, they close things out with a round of Red Flag or Deal Breakers all about trust with special guest Victoria Justice to discuss her new movie Trust, out March 12th. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

On this Sunday Special, J&J are joined by Emily Morse, Doctor of Human Sexuality and host of the Sex With Emily podcast. They start with a conversation about how to open up to your partner about what you want in the bedroom, with some tips for broaching the subject and getting what you want. Emily fills us in on her own sex life and offers advice for those who feel sexually incompatible with their partner. A listener writes in to ask whether or not she and her boyfriend will ever be sexually compatible if they weren’t on the same page in the first place. Then another emailer asks how to deal with a clueless sexual partner, especially when he shows no interest in offering her pleasure after he orgasms. They close the show with a conversation about giving directions to someone and not just expecting them to anticipate your needs. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana start the week with a discussion of the rules for how explicit you have to be about what you’re doing surrounding Covid while dating in 2021. A listener writes in with a story about insisting that the guy she’s dating get a test, and how she responded when it came back positive. Is it fair to insist that your partner be more cautious around you? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a UTI and a stained toilet. Another emailer asks how to break up with her uncommunicative boyfriend after moving in together. Is it ever worth staying in a relationship if you can't afford your apartment lease on your own? Finally, they close things out with some Red Flag or Deal Breakers, which leads to a conversation about whether or not you should tell your partner when someone else hits on you. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back for another Sunday Special, and this week they’re talking about how to interpret a guy's actions after he failed to reschedule a date. A listener writes in to share the text exchange she had with a guy who said he had to cancel the date but never came back around to pick a new time. The listener wanted to know if she should be more wary of guys who have just gotten out of long term relationships or if this could happen with anyone. Plus, they talk about the appropriate amount of time to wait before calling someone out for their sh*tty behavior. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The J’s kick things off this week with a conversation about emotional masturbation and the pitfalls of fantasizing too much about somebody you’re newly interested in. A listener writes in to ask whether or not her own emotional masturbation is getting in the way of setting realistic expectations and developing a healthy relationship. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a lube mixup. Then another emailer asks if she should write an apology to her ex for mistakes she made when they were together. Do our exes actually want to hear an apology from us, or should we leave things in the past? Finally, they close the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, including one about proper etiquette regarding pulling down someone’s mask before going in for a kiss. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week's Sunday Special is all about how to deal with poor communication from someone when they won't give you a straight answer about where your relationship stands. A listener writes in to ask how to get the guy she was seeing to be more clear about his feelings now that he’s in a new city. Jordana and Jared read their text exchange and tell us what he’s really trying to accomplish by cutting off communication so abruptly. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana start the show with a reflection on some of the highlights from the first 10 years of Betches history and a discussion about what “success” really looks like. Then they dive into a conversation about how to moderate someone’s expectations about whether or not you'll be hooking up before the date. A listener writes in to ask how to communicate to a guy she only met once that she isn’t looking to sleep together right away. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves horrible smelling feet and not enough ventilation. Then another listener writes in to ask if it’s possible to fix her boyfriend’s fashion sense even though he seems pretty committed to his accessories. How do you deal with dating someone who has an unattractive wardrobe? Finally, they finish the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breakers, leading to a conversation about whether or not you should be honest about how many sexual partners you’ve had in the past. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

It’s Jared’s birthday (and Jordana totally didn’t forget) so J&J talk about the ideal dating age for a man versus what people consider the ideal age for a woman. Then a listener writes in to ask why the guy she was seeing suddenly cooled off on her after hanging out for the first time in a month. Why won’t he give her a straight answer about where things went wrong between them? Jordana and Jared read their latest text exchange and try to explain what each of these people are thinking (and what it says about how we all communicate). Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J begin the week with a conversation about properly loading the dishwasher (this doesn’t need to be so difficult!) and finding a good date spot in a pandemic. Then they react to a post from someone who applied to the Bachelor while in a relationship. What does it say about your relationship if you daydream about being on The Bachelor when you’re already with someone else? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a listener who suddenly realized that she’s been farting on every sex partner she’s ever slept over with. They read an email from another listener whose boyfriend started making more money but refuses to take on some of the extra household costs. Is it a sign of things to come if your partner insists on splitting everything fifty-fifty? Then they’re joined by Mike Johnson of The Bachelorette and the Talking It Out podcast. They talk about whether it hurts more to end a relationship with someone who did all the right things or someone who did you wrong. Plus, they discuss how to keep a relationship out

On this Valentines Day Sunday Special, the J’s are joined by Betches co-founder and host of the Diet Starts Tomorrow podcast, Aleen Dreksler. They start with a conversation about how V-Day expectations change as a relationship gets more serious. Then a listener writes in to share her experience with serious eating disorders (including anorexia and crash dieting) in her romantic life. She asks how and when it’s appropriate to tell the guy she just started dating that she has struggled with disordered eating throughout her life. When is it safe to tell someone that you struggle with food and are still working on it? Another emailer tells a story about dating a guy who lost a lot of weight and feels entitled to criticize other peoples’ bodies. Is it a deal breaker if they make negative comments about another person’s body, or is it possible she's overreacting? Finally, a listener asks how to tell her boyfriend that his fitness and diet routine is too extreme. Is there a way to tell your partner that you want the

Jared and Jordana begin the week of Valentine’s Day with a conversation about how to celebrate the holiday in 2021. A listener writes in to ask whether or not she should expect the guy she’s only been dating for 2 months to plan something this year. J&J rate the level of V-Day expectations at every stage of a relationship, explaining exactly how much effort is required based on the milestones you’ve hit. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves period sex, a flung condom, and a lot of cleanup. Then another listener asks why the guy she just started dating asked her to go on vacation together, then backed out at the last minute. Is he showing that he’s unreliable or just trying to avoid getting too serious too soon? They read a text message exchange about the cancelled vacation and tell us what’s really going on here. Finally, this week’s Red Flag or Deal Breakers feature a debate about whether or not you’re required to split lottery scratcher winnings with the person you’re dating. Learn more about your ad choic

On this week’s Sunday Special J&J are joined by Logan Ury, behavioral scientist, dating coach, and the author of How To Not Die Alone. They talk about how Logan uses her behavioral science background to better understand relationships, including some tips for how to figure out the age in which you should settle down. They discuss the three dating tendencies everyone should be aware of, how to identify our dating blindspots, and why it’s time to say “f*ck the spark” and just commit to a second date. Plus, she confirms one of Jared’s long-running theories about breakups. Then Logan tells the story of how she and her partner took on a health crisis, put on an impromptu wedding ceremony, and moved into a commune. Finally, a listener writes in to ask whether or not her relationship is struggling due to the pandemic, or if it’s a sign of a deeper problem. They discuss the best way to identify whether or not the person you’re dating is right for you long term. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adc

The J’s start the show with a conversation about criticizing a loved one’s appearance without hurting their feelings. A listener writes in to ask how she should bring up her partner’s balding head, and whether or not he’ll be offended by her suggestion to shave it all off. Is there any way to comment on your partner’s appearance without things going horribly wrong? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a fully masked guy going down on a fully clothed girl. Then another emailer asks whether her recent breakup was inevitable after relocating for each other but not feeling the desire to take it to the next level. Is there an expiration date on a relationship if you’ve been together a long time and aren’t considering marriage? Finally, they close the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breakers, leading to a debate about asking family members to join you on an otherwise romantic vacation. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week’s Sunday Special is all about trying to walk back a first date hook up in order to start taking things slower. A listener writes in about a guy who seems to be avoiding the second date after a great text exchange and a successful first meeting. Is it always a mistake to agree to a Netflix and chill hook up on the first date if you’re hoping for something more serious down the line? J&J examine their texts after the date and try to explain why he isn’t trying harder to see her again. Plus, they explain why having a series of FaceTime dates before meeting up in person might trick you into thinking things are more serious than the other person perceives. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana start the show with a reaction to Clare and Dale from The Bachelorette suddenly calling it quits, and tell us what this says about people who swear they’ve “met the one” too quickly. Then a listener writes in to ask how to deal with parents that excessively pressure you to date. How do you create boundaries without starting a fight? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves an old couch, bad aim, and an overeager virgin. Next, an emailer writes in to ask whether or not it’s shady for her boyfriend to hide his IG stories about his relationship from a select list of women. Is he trying to keep them from seeing he’s in a relationship so that he can keep his options open? Finally, they play a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker featuring a conversation about people who wait a full week to text you back. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices