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This Sunday Jared and Jordana are joined by Erica Spera, comedian and host of the Shooters Gotta Shoot podcast. They start with a conversation about dating with herpes, including some of the most common misconceptions associated with it. Is it time for people to stop stigmatizing herpes and be open about it? Plus, they debate when it’s the right time to disclose sensitive information to a sexual partner. Then a listener writes in to ask whether or not she’s obligated to share her herpes diagnosis with a new partner before they get serious. Is it better to be up front about it, or should you wait until things get more serious to have that conversation? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J start the show talking about the value of spending time away from your partner (even if it’s just during work hours) and tell us what they think of the new Cameo breakup trend. Then they share some listener responses to recent Red Flag or Deal Breaker questions, including a series of detailed explanations for the closed-mouth kisser. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a bag of sh*t on the counter and no chance to explain. Next, an emailer writes in to ask whether or not she should tell her new boyfriend that he has to stop sending check-in texts to his ex. Is it a violation of their trust if he doesn’t tell her that he keeps sending messages to his ex? Finally, they’re joined by Stephen Colletti and James Lafferty to talk about their new series Everyone Is Doing Great and play a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker. They debate whether or not it’s flattering for someone to Google you before a first date, and close the show with a conversation about who should pick up the bill. Learn more about your ad choi

The Sunday Special is all about whether or not a guy taking you out on an expensive date indicates that he's looking for something more serious than just sex. A listener writes in to share a story about having sex following a $200 dinner and not hearing from the guy again. Did he really spend all that money for a one night stand? J&J read their text exchange that went from casual hook up-chat to going on a real date and explain where the communication went wrong. They talk all about setting expectations with someone you’re dating and the pitfalls of expecting someone to get on the same page about what they want out of the relationship. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The J’s are back and start the show with a conversation about obsessively tracking your dating life and what it might say about your approach to romance. They react to a TikTok from a woman who maintains a detailed spreadsheet tracking all the guys she’s dated. Should all single people be tracking their dates to see what’s working and what isn’t? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a blowjob and an accidental snorting incident. Then a listener writes in to ask if she should be open and honest about family issues with someone she just started dating. Is it necessary to divulge your family secrets, or is that something you save for after the relationship gets serious? Finally, they close things with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker featuring a text exchange that always ends in exclamation points! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This Sunday Special is all about dating someone who may still be seeing their ex. A listener writes in with a question about a guy who has repeatedly asked for a date even though he seems to be back with his ex-girlfriend. Why would someone try so hard to get you invested in a relationship with them if they have something else going? The J’s go through her most recent text exchange with this guy and try to figure out whether or not he is aware that he’s being called out. Finally, they share the solution for dealing with guys who try to get away with treating you like a side chick. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jordana and Jared begin the week with a conversation about whether or not you can ever turn a long term hook up into a relationship. A listener writes in to ask if there’s any way the guy she has been hooking up with for the last seven years will consider making things official. Is it worth trying to get him to see her differently, or is he set in his ways? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves an attempt to make out with a tight-lipped kisser. Then another emailer asks if it’s normal that her boyfriend sets calendar reminders to tell her he loves her. Is this a sign that he’s a thoughtful partner or a careless one? Finally, they close the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker featuring a question about dating someone who only uses one fork. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week, the Sunday Special is all about dating someone who wants to put things on ice until they are more comfortable about the pandemic. A listener writes in to ask why a guy she had great chemistry with would call it quits and whether or not she should wait for him to come around later in the year. Plus, they break down a text exchange between the couple and explain exactly what this guy is looking for. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J start the show with a conversation about New Year’s resolutions and how the pandemic has changed everything, including how we look at love and relationships. Then a listener writes in to ask how to move on in the midst of a pandemic after calling things off with her boyfriend of two years. Is it normal to feel ‘frozen’ after a devastating breakup? The Awkward Sexual Encounter is all about getting stuck in a guy’s bathroom the morning after a one night stand. Then another emailer asks how to tell her college boyfriend that she wants him to focus on getting a new job for the sake of their shared future. Is it fair to expect him to prioritize their future immediately out of college, or should she move on from the relationship altogether? Finally, they close the show with some Red Flag or Deal Breakers, leading to a revelation about Jared and Jordana’s love of Benihana (even on a first date). Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week’s Sunday Special features a Deal Reveal all about guys who try to keep things casual. A listener writes in to ask why the guy she was hooking up with asked if he could keep the conversation going even though they’ve made it clear they’re not looking for the same things. Is he hoping she will change her mind about hooking up casually even though she’s told him otherwise? J&J read the back-and-forth text exchange and explain where both parties stand. Plus, they tell us why guys will keep trying to circle back to see if your standards have changed. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana get this holiday week started with an update on Jordana’s #treebetch reviews and a conversation about people who still get into the Christmas spirit the way they did as children. Then they answer an email from a listener who is devastated to find out that her ex is already back to dating his college girlfriend just a month after they split. How do you get over having someone move on to a new relationship so quickly? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a female condom that went missing in action. Then another listener writes in to ask why her ex-boyfriend didn’t give her the response she was looking for when she tried to rekindle their relationship after breaking up with him. Finally, the J's are joined by comedian and actor Bo Burnham to talk about the new movie Promising Young Woman and to play a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker including one about sharing a meal-prep promo code on a dating app. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Sunday Special is all about what it means when your long-distance fling won’t make an effort to see you again. J&J analyze a listener’s text exchange with a guy who failed to plan another meetup and won’t come to her city this time around. Is he intentionally keeping her on the hook without letting things get serious? Finally, they talk about why it’s important to figure out what you actually want out of the relationship in order to understand what to do next. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J&J start the show with a conversation about how to handle dating after a major body transformation. A listener writes in to ask whether or not she should tell a guy about her drastic weight loss before hooking up, especially if she’s feeling insecure. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves an exchange of “I love you’s” and some embarrassing oral sex. Then another listener asks if her boyfriend is looking to break up with her or just setting expectations for the future. Finally, they close the show with a game of Red Flag or Dealbreaker featuring a conversation about whether it’s harder to date someone that’s a total grinch or way too into the holiday spirit. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The Sunday Special features an email from a confused listener who wants to know why a guy would reach out five months after severing their quarantine fling. Is he really interested in finding out “how you’re doing” or is he just looking to hook up again? Plus, J&J talk about whether or not people ever want someone to check in out of the blue, and why no one is ever straightforward about their motives. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are in the holiday spirit and start with a conversation about celebrating as an “interfaith couple” this year. Plus, they talk about Jordana’s destiny as a Christmas tree connoisseur. Then they answer a listener email about how to tell the guy she started seeing that she wants to be exclusive for the sake of covid safety. How do you broach the subject without coming off as "too much" to someone you’ve only been dating for a month? Another listener asks how to safely connect for a casual meetup in the times of covid closures. The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a passionate hookup and an accidental 911 call. Then another listener asks how to tell her boyfriend that she expects a pricey engagement ring. How do you explain that you care about the marriage but also care about the ring? Finally, they finish things with some Red Flag or Deal Breakers, including a debate about backseat driving. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week’s Sunday Special features an email from a listener who matched on a dating app with a guy she dated who recently rejected her. Is this a sign that he still wants to see her? Plus, they explain why a guy would reignite a connection and the implications it has for where things are going. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

J & J are back and start the show with a conversation about cuffing season being more important this year than ever before. Then they answer an emailer who wants to know if she is free to leave the apartment if her boyfriend tests positive for coronavirus. Is this a passive aggressive way of fighting with your partner or just a practical question about staying healthy? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a marching band hook up and a drummer with too much rhythm. Then another listener asks how to deal with dating a new guy who has different political opinions, especially when his friends are at odds with hers. Should she respect his desire to avoid political conversations with his friends and is it fair for him to judge her by the company she keeps? Finally, they close things with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, including a question about requesting a selfie before going on a first date. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

This week’s Sunday Special is all about getting a last-minute text to confirm plans for a dinner date even though there was plenty of time to lock it in. Should you hold your ground and pass on the date or just go through with it? Plus, does this indicate that no one wants to go on the date in the first place, or is it just a matter of miscommunication? They discuss the dynamics of getting out of a first date and why we often struggle with the decision. Thanks to our sponsors: Buffy: For $20 off your Buffy bedding, visit Buffy.co and enter promo code UUP Glossier: Get Glossier’s glowy, dewy look for yourself by visiting Glossier.com/podcast/uup and get 10% off your first purchase! Bruush: Get 15% off your Brüush when you use promo code UUP at Bruush.com Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Jared and Jordana are back on this Thanksgiving Eve episode to talk about spending holidays together as a couple and what it says about your relationship. Then an emailer asks whether or not it’s okay to expect her new boyfriend to be as thoughtful as her when it comes to gift giving. How do you ask your partner to do something when it's not in their nature? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves a faulty vibrator and a startled cat. Then another listener asks if she should be worried that the guy she started talking to again is consistently following new girls on Instagram each day. Is he telling other women the same things he’s telling her, or is this just harmless social media behavior? Finally, the show closes with some Red Flag or Deal Breakers, leading to a conversation about what you should do if you find the wrong color strand of hair in your partner’s bed. Thanks to our sponsors: Buffy: For $20 off your Buffy bedding, visit Buffy.co and enter promo code UUP Glossier: Get Glossier’s glowy, dewy look

On this week's Sunday Special, a listener writes in to ask how she should respond to a guy who took her out and then sent an uncomfortably long text explaining why he wants to just be friends. Why would a guy go to the trouble of spilling his guts over text if it’s not going to be a romantic connection? Plus, they explain why he felt the need to treat their text exchange like a therapy session and how she should react. Thanks to our sponsors: Rory: Rory makes it simple to connect with a healthcare professional online, and see if personalized prescription skincare treatment is right for you. Go to hellorory.com/UUP to try the nightly defense for just $5. It’s free to chat with the doctor, and your first order is just $5! Rothys: Check out all the amazing shoes and bags available right now at rothys.com/uup Parade: Get your own pairs of Parade now and use our promo code for 20% off your order at www.yourparade.com/UUP or use promo code UUP Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

The J’s start the show with a reaction to tone-deaf people on social media and a conversation about trying to make things romantic in a relationship after you move in together. Then a listener writes in to ask how much daily communication tells you about where a relationship is at. How soon should you expect to hear from a guy on a daily basis? The Awkward Sexual Encounter involves chafing from too much masturbation and an unlikely solution. Then a guy writes in to ask for advice after his childhood crush turned into a quarantine fling, but now she went back home and is starting to ghost him. Finally, they finish the show with a game of Red Flag or Deal Breaker, including a question about whether or not you could date someone who considers their friendship with an ex to be a “package deal.” Thanks to our sponsors: Rory: Rory makes it simple to connect with a healthcare professional online, and see if personalized prescription skincare treatment is right for you. Go to hellorory.com/UUP to try the nightly def