Good Girl Radio

For a large part of my life I've followed and ascribed to the societal ideology "being good." I believed the benefits and blessings of "following the rules" almost to the detriment of my purpose. I also saw "all these hoes winning."  So I observed for almost two years the practices and approaches of winning free women. In this chat, Cameo and Danielle address why the good girl theology will cause you to lose at life and how & why women are winning.   

After 3 failed marriages and 5 and half years of self assessment, a vibrant 49 year old Mary Harris came to a stark conclusion about her relationships. She said that some of her treasured platonic relationships ruined some of her most intimate relationships. In this chat, she details how many of us fall into cycle of depending on the advice of others to guide and direct our romantic relationships which eventually leads them towards a path of destruction. 

Happy Thanksgiving! This is a special edition of the Good Girl Podcast because it's Thanksgiving! Hindsight is 20/20 but when we are in midst of our complexities, it can be a beautiful prayer and testament to our humanity and divinity. We see our greatness and our flaws. So, this week, Cameo is sharing 3 personal issues she's working through.  We all got work to do!

This week's show is extremely personal. It hits the very core of my being. It was one of my very first confessions. Perfectionism. For whatever reason I had come to love, applaud, and praise the social construct of perfection, this idea of "getting it right." I strive for the moment when I hit the bullseye, the mark of perfect, or 100% . But, praise GOD

In this week's podcast, author and Chicago native, T.N.King details how she lost herself to her job, status, money, and the obvious, a relationship. In her book, Stop Chasing False Idols and Awaken Your Inner Goddess, King invites every woman who has felt depleted, hopeless, or “not enough” to reconnect and uncover her true, divine self—known as her Inner Goddess. In our chat King exposes the “idols” women create in their minds and the lifestyles they use to distract themselves.

When we often think of marriage, we think of riding off into the sunset with our boo thang. We think we are better together. We may even think I now have a partner in crime for all of life's ups and downs. FULL STOP. That ain't the case shawty. This week, Tanesha Ash-Shakoor confesses that her expectations of wholeness in her marriage were rooted her emotional deficits and created bitterness and jealousy. Her transparency will free you and help you. Listen & learn.

No one is immune. It's like a kid in a candy store. I'm talking about women plus  that man with potential. Many of us have dated a person who we knew, without a shadow of doubt, would become something great, if we just gave them time. But au contraire, in this confession session, we learn there is a deeper reason why women, especially, gravitate to those "project men." And it does not have to do with an unhealed or broken part of our spirit. Listen up!

This podcast is personal, uber personal, because I am 35 and I've noticed a significant shift in how I show up in my relationships as well as how others show up in their relationships with me. Danielle Moore, licensed clinical therapists of the Refresh Wellness Center walks me through the two top reasons how and why our friendships changes after 35. 

This week we're taking DEEP dive into the world of parenting. Parenting can be one the most rewarding and challenging jobs known to man. And this week, our conversation with Yolanda Williams, Certified Positive Discipline and Host of the podcast Parenting Decolonized releasing on October 23rd, addresses many of discipline practices with black parenting that are doing more harm than good.    

Every week we speak with a person who has a confession that highlights the messy part of figuring life out. Some confessions deal with taboo topics or illustrate the complexity of a single human experience. This week we chatted with Kenneth Hampton, a father, husband, a man a of faith who struggled with depression.

Fat people exist in our society. I have fat friends, family, loved-ones and coworkers. According to this week's guest, fat is descriptor. It is not an insult. This is what our conversation is about. Fluffy, curvy, or thick are words that have been used to placate the word fat. Listen as I chat, with Candice Fortman, Chief Operations and Engagement of Outlier Media, about our society's exhausting relationship with fat on women.

Many of us took hold of the Hot Girl Summer proclamation by Meg thee Stallion and ran with it...to our boat parties, rendezvous with the new boo (or 2), even declaring and living by the hook up lifestyle. And now that the season is changing and summer is officially over, the ripple effects of our hot girl summer lifestyle decisions are settling in and the high is wearing off.   Sings Soul II Soul ***back to life, back to reality***   So as we always do here on the Good Girl Podcast, I am sharing some valuable lessons (and confessions) I learned from the "Hot Girl Summer."

Ya'll, this is that conversation! This week we had one of those conversations when you are yelling "Girl!"  for a whole 60 seconds because you absolutely can not believe what you are hearing and what is transpiring. This is that conversation, the one that transcends a moment and touches your spirit! A conversation where you had expectations, a plan, and where excited about the result but God had other plans. Listen as celebrity hair stylist, Nikki Barnes, who's first celebrity client was Chris Brown and has been in the company of the likes of Oprah, Keri Hilson, & Tisha Campbell, begins to share her confession but the conversation takes a turn...

Often times when we hear about entrepreneurship, we only hear about the stories of triumph over impossible odds or the daily challenges to become a formidable leader. But this week we speak with Sonia Lewis, the Student Loan Doctor, who credits her entrepreneurial journey to literally saving her life.   During the chat she shares there was a point in her life where she consistently slept for 2-3 hours a night.   Listen as she shares how becoming the first woman and African American to own a student loan debt repayment company allowed her flourish with her medical condition.

Historically, the bondage and freedom of  women's sexuality has hinged on a culture that was designed to solely benefit the desires and whims of men. One of the by-products of this culture was the lack of exploration of women's preference, pleasure, and freedom when it comes to sex. This week in our confession session we take on a small slice of the patriarchal pie by examining the use and implications of the word “hoe” on women - whether the word should be eradicated or the negative connotation challenged. 

The hashtag #BlackGirlMagic has created a culture on and off social media of a steady yet strong celebration of black women being amazing and doing amazing things from creating culture shifting content to inserting their intellectual prowess. Black Girl Magic is something every woman is aspiring to be or is she?  After being a part of a panel discussion with about 20 black and brown girls in an urban school district in Lansing, MI, myself and another panelist discover that there were adverse affects of the Black Girl Magic movement. Listen up as we have a confession session about the politics of Black Girl Magic movements for both teen girls and grown women. 

In an ideal world, the relationship between a believer and a non-believer can be simple. As simple as, I respect your beliefs and you respect mine. But we know life is never ever that simple. In today's podcast we take a deep dive into a strained relationship between a religious mother and an atheist daughter. Our conversation winds down the road of religiosity, the role of a believer, and the two choices both the daughter and mother must face.

Every person on this planet will experience trauma in their lives whether it's navigating the loss of loved one, heart break, or a sudden unexpected shift in their environment. We will all come face to face with a new normal which will require a processing of emotions. But the reality is the American culture tends to be more reactive rather than proactive with our life changes. So during this mental health awareness month, contributor & licensed mental health therapist Danielle Moore breaks it all the way down why we need a therapist at every stage in our lives. 

When a conversation hits, it just hits!  This week's Confession Session is more like two friends catching up with Cameo & Donjia. New Jersey Native Donjia Wilson (like Kanye) tackles the oxymoron of being a worship leader in the proverbial "church" while also dealing head on with depression. This conversation runs the gamut of expectations of those in ministry, anger in our faith, the tension between faith communities and mental health therapists, and how Donjia did not use the traditional routes to manage her depression. 

This week the beauty & brains maven & New Jersey native, Ijeoma Kola, tackles the beauty narrative as a black fashion blogger. In our confession session, she shares the reality of the double beauty body standard for black women and how it has effected her confidence even as an international blogger. Listen as Ijeoma & Cameo both share the truth in their body confidence issues plus hear how Ijeoma's "Every Body Style Challenge" is forcing bloggers to look at fashion for all with a new perspective.