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We are not alone, reach out, this is what we hear but do others truly understand? Well we do not know unless we start that conversation with others. Others telling their stories helps ease the fears and concerns of judgement and rejection. Charlie has definitely done that. We talk about her story of mental health and how this has led her on a path of self discovery and within that discovery how she can help others. She has some excellent nuggets of wisdom, reflecting on how you must start with yourself and what you can control, that although reaching out is difficult and you may not understand why you feel the way you do, talking to others and finding support can make a real difference. Charlie also wanted to share a youtube video of how just listening to others can help all by itself. Because sometimes we don't want to be fixed, we just need to be heard. Thank you Charlie for taking the time to talk to me and tell your story, I enjoyed nattering with you. And thank you all for listening. Good day, Good

Turning 38, closer to 40, gives me the desire to reflect. Coming from the viewpoint of what I expected at 38. A house, a car, wealth, health, a family. The funny thing is I have all of them but none are as I expected.  The markers we set are generally not set by us. They are the traditions and standards passed on, normally with care and the want for happiness but is it our happiness or what others envision happiness for us because what they were sold was happiness and being content in life.  Living my life backwards children first, then house, car and then career it's easier (not easy just easier) to see the flaws and the false advertising or at least feel it's not quite one size fits all. Your path can only be walked by you, which means it can only be forged by you. Yes, there's help along the way and others can teach you skills but the glass ceiling is up to you. Your best all you can do and it is enough for you. Do your best, until you know better, then do better.  Thank you for listening, Good d

I woke up this morning and saw something that really made the penny drop.  Not being able to see the wood for the tree is a saying that invokes the concept of being lost yet, it's right in front of you. Something which is resonating with a lot of people close to me just lately and especially myself.  These ideas and targets we have for ourselves, our north stars, what happens when we don't reach them, or moreover what happens when we do? What then? What do we do next?  The blackhole we find ourselves in leaves us feeling lost without a sense of direction. Not knowing where to turn. What is the right path? What is our yellow brick road?  What we also need to remember is we are not alone when we feel lost. It is so easy to not want to put on others, to believe we are alone in what we are feeling but I can hand on heart say you are not. Sometimes all it takes is a listening ear.  We have our own answers but support and care and compassion can make it alittle easier. Those that are there for you will li

Starting with a big thank you. My last podcast saw a huge influx of listens and I can not be more grateful so many of you took the time to listen to my podcasts, old and new. I speak from the heart and somehow it's connecting with you. I appreciate you all. SPeaking of connecting... Purpose and connection.  Without them we feel lost. We need a goal to work towards, a north star. Purpose gives life meaning, yet meaning is an individual idea. What is meaning for one is pointless to another. Additionally, how we are connected to our own meaning is equally diverse.  Connection involves a magnitude of connotation. From friends, family, partners to a career, a possession or goal. They interlink and become harder to separate the more we engross ourselves in what matters to us.  Purpose involves connection but without connection there is no purpose.  Recently I have felt lost in the position of my north star and I wonder do we ever really know or does it change as we do? leading to the question I think we

Something out of the blue can change your view.  A week ago I was taken to the hospital because they suspected I was having a heart attack. What it gave me was a change of heart. This was not some grant, near death experience where people see the error of their ways and change their life story like a movie. Fuck that romantised BS.  What it can make you realise is the support network you have. Who do you call and are you really as alone as you thought you once were.  Many tangents, so be warned. None of my podcasts are scripted or edited. From start to finish you get the full thought process of me speaking from my heart. Nothing fancy, just one yorkshire lass trying to connect with others over a brew.  What is personal is usually experienced generally.  Thank you for listening.  #mentalhealth #alone #together #heartattack

F*ck anxiety, and all its friends like self doubt, fear, and worthlessness. As a long time member of the 'I'm not enough and too much all at the same time' club, day to day can seem exhausting. You look to others believing they have it together when in fact they are just as lost as you. The hope that one day these thoughts will do one and the need for peace of mind. Not wanting to be a burden while craving love and affection you never received. I speak about my own struggles, the management and how counselling helps. This podcast episode is more vlog form this week. Sharing honestly is the best way to help others feel less alone, yet something I feel we all struggle with for fear of judgement and the very thing we are exposing in our most vulnerable times is used against us. All we can do is our best, until we know better then we can do better. Thank you for listening. #mentalhealth #vlog #notalone

We all make plans. Whether they're errands to do or distance far off dreams of one day, but these are just ideas, concepts. We never really know how things and life is going to go. With time and experience plans change, yet we hold on to what we were, rather than what we are. However, this doesn't change the fundamentals of ourselves, yet we are rooted in the structures we made of what we would like our lives to look like, never acknowledging we to, change and evolve. Furthermore, we don't recognise we are supposed to enjoy ourselves, life does not have to be about misery and the daily grind. Plans are the love handles of life, we hold on to them as something for stability as we are understanding what we are doing we're able to let go and hopefully enjoy ourselves. Thank you for listening. I appreciate you all. Share, like and hopefully subscribe. Good day, good brew. #plans #mentalhealth #enjoyment

Emotions. Valid right? yes but to what extent. It is that emotions are valid. You can feel the way you feel. If something upsets you, then it upsets you. If it makes you happy then, by all means be happy. It is when we lend all our responses to our emotions. We all know a moment in our lives of what I like to think of as Hadgrid moments. Shouldn't of said/done that. The more we accept and understand our emotions, the more we control the responses rather than the way we feel, giving an opportunity for reasoning to play a part. This week I meditate on the idea of why we react and how we can lessen it. Because we all know it's not always going to work but naming the demon takes it control, mostly. Thank you for listening. Like, comment, subscribe, sharing and all that jazz. Good day, good brew.  Oooo fyi. I failed my mod 1. Gutted of course and reason why this is late but it's rebooked.

The good, the hope in people, in a person for their innate individualism and creativity they have to share with the world. What is good for others, might not be for some and those that might not be good to you can go on to be a huge beacon of good to others. This is something I believe in and just recently lost it. We all have core beliefs, something we hold on to that makes us, us. The experiences we have been through shapes them and continues to do so as we move through this thing called life. Losing this hope made me realise how important keeping the positive that I had worked so hard to maintain for my own well being, the hope in others, means I lose hope in myself. Because if there is no good in the world, so we decide to be the good, doesn't that mean it does exist. Existential moment. We all have value integral to us. What is yours? Thank you for listening and I'd love to hear your thoughts. #thegood #mentalhealth #corebeliefs

Two weeks away. Between restarting work and coming off the back of a motorcycle (don't worry, I am fine, just a bruised bum and ego), I need to gather my thoughts so they can be expressed in a manner that I feel would be of some value to others. The want to help others is something I feel very strongly about, but just lately have lost that spark, that flame of hope in the good of others and, more importantly, myself. The phrase, no sudden exits, is a way to remind me that we need people here making memories rather than just being one, including me. There has been and will be a lot to overcome in my future, just like others and following the examples led by others such as Rich Roll, someone that inspires me while being at a level that I aspire to be in ideas and colloquial expression. The idea of being the lighthouse, the light that shines to attract those wishing to hear your voice and the information you hold, can only shine if you keep the light, that flame, glowing even in the darkest of times. Thank yo

100th episode! (Ignore the break in between). I cannot thank guests and listeners, old and new, for taking the time to be a part of my conversations with a brew. I appreciate you all. Having said that, this week I muse over the idea of what is "healthy". Breaking it down into bite size understanding and my perspective of balance. If there is such a thing. Happy to hear your views and opinions. What do you think "healthy" consists of? Thank you for listening. #healthy #whatdoyoumean #100

Debs is a content creator on Instagram and YouTube, showing the journey of being fit in your mature years. Debs weight loss journey has been well documented, highlighting all sides from feelings to abilities. Lately Debs has been diagnosed with uterine prolapse and although it's been described as normal and she's far from alone in this diagnosis, she discusses how she feels far less than "normal". Forewarning, there are some discussions of intimate body parts. I've known Debs for several years now and I cannot express the care and love I have for this woman. Forever brings love and kindness to whoever she interacts with, despite any personal issues she may be experiencing. Thank you Debs for returning to the podcast. If you would like to know more about Debs please find her at Lovin'DebsFaithandfit50s on YouTube and Instagram and if any of the topics have affected you or you would like to talk to someone if you're worried please contact your local GP. Thank you for listening. #normal #love #different

Growing up, I sensed something was different about me. I wasn't the same as my siblings, nor did I ever feel fully connected to family or friends. My view points were clear, it was people that made them messy. Why couldn't people's words and actions be the same. Why did I never feel I belonged anywhere and so many more whys. 4 weeks ago I got the answers, I am on the spectrum and although it was a relief to finally understand a large part of myself, it started new questions. These questions and perspective changes have brought a sense of unpicking of self. Bringing a kinder view to myself. I am still me, but me with a better understanding. Autism has its strengths and its weaknesses. A late diagnosis has different challenges compared to those that have known all their life and I'm currently working through mine. Thank you for listening and if you would like to know more about autism or ASD I recommend you check out the NHS website or autism.org.uk. Also if you too believe you could be on the spectrum, please

Run,Talk,Run is a mental health running group. Providing a group 5k at a pace everyone is comfortable with. It has been running (excuse the pun) since 2017, building itself to create 100s of groups talking and moving their feet, all with one purpose, to aid mental health. Whether it is theirs, others, or both. Ash is one of the run leaders of the Sheffield group. We discuss how he came to be a part of RTR, why he does it and how it matters to him. As a person that has joined several RTR in the past, I have experienced first hand how they help simply by showing up and listening as feet are shuffled forward. The group leader's accountability shows up every week even when no one attends, and is a beacon of light of care and reliability. Ensuring they are leaving people just that little better than they found them. Thank you Ash for joining me and all those listening. If you wish to find Ash or Run,Talk,Run please visit their Instagram or their website runtalkrun.com and find your local group. #mentalhealth #runn

What a person's needs are in relationships, friend, partner, family or otherwise, are individual to them. Through childhood and like experiences as we go through, what was not met could be essential to the person as they mature to feel cared for, loved, heard, seen and most importantly feel safe. Needs are a way of us having a sense of security no matter the confines of the relationship. Needs not met can lead to anxiety, stress and as well as many others. In this podcast I contemplate the whats, whys and hows a person may be able to achieve these. I am not limiting it to these ideas, I am just giving a different perspective on the needs of others while sharing my experiences. Thank you for listening. #needs #podcast #what #why #how #mentalhealth

Vulnerability is the strength to expose your weaknesses without expectations of outcome. It's an extremely hard process, fear stops just. Fear of judgment and proof we shouldn't trust as it's weaponised against us. This involves, being open and opening up, two very different concepts but both equally helpful in the process. In this episode I discuss the difference. Please leave a comment on your thoughts. Thank you for listening. Your support is appreciated. #vulnerability #fear #courage

Love, a hard thing to pin down. It's felt and expressed in many ways, but what happens when love isn't the happy story we're taught in films and stories? The ideas created do not always sync up to reality and where does self love and worth play its part and how does it effect us. In this podcast, I meditate over the concept, while sharing some of my experiences. Thank you for listening.

After nearly 3 years of not doing this I'm back. Podcasting is something I've missed and has been niggling for me to return for a while now. Having the courage to step back into something you turned away from is hard, whether that's a career, a hobby or a relationship. Courage is not the absence of fear, it is feeling the fear and doing it anyway. So here we are. Stay beautiful.

These are not times our generation or several before have ever been through. And like many I'm not going to deny I've had my struggles at times. Knowing this I want to share my 6 tips to how I manage through. Remembering we're all human so what works for one, might not necessarily work for another. But hopefully at least one can help. Stay safe and look after you and your loved ones.

Vulnerability has never been easy, especially when I've spent most my life in fight or flight. Finding out one thing, like my dyslexia, can lead to a whole can of worms opening and unimaginable emotions flowing out. Realising you are so far off your path and if you still want to do the things you are doing, because you never fully trusted yourself is hard. But it's an opportunity to reconnect. This is me being open to you all. I hope you're all well and looking after yourself.